Anyone else experienced a fear of getting pregnant again?

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Has anyone else experienced this nd how can I move on?

I’ve realised that I’ve posted a few posts lately that highlight I’m being irrational about falling pregnant.

I am on the pill, an almost perfect user and have never had unprotected sex unless trying to conceive and having a 14 month old who doesn’t sleep well, I’m not getting nag much, haha!

I had a weird pill breakthrough bleed - panicked about being pregnant - repeated negative tests.

I’ve got a virus (I think) that feels like morning sickness but worse and can last all day.
Again, terrified of being pregnant and more tests - all negative.

We’re not ready for another child, at all, I’m taking precautions and have never had a pregnancy scare, until now where I’m terrified of anything out of the norm being an indication of pregnancy.

Help.

Yes, I did, but only after my second one. There is a 6 year gap between my two and we used condoms in that time, which worked perfectly fine, although I know it's not foolproof.

After the second one my fear was out of this world and we decided that I will have a sterilization. Luckily (for once) I live in a country where you pay for your medical care, so getting it done wasn't a problem.

But we didn't have sex for a veeeeerrry long time because we were both terrified, so I know how you feel.

Maybe double-up with condoms in the meantime?

Thanks for your reply, good to know I’m not the only one!

DD has been a hard baby and tough toddler thanks to her reflux and other issues, the fear of having another like her is very real.

If we decided to have another, which is a big if, I’d like to be sterilised, though a hysterectomy would solve many other issues at the same time.

Me. Oh my goodness it paralysed me for year and years. My body literally fell to pieces when pregnant and still 16 years later I am still broken.

It nearly ruined my relationship with my husband as I wouldn’t let him come near me. It’s still not gone now even though I’m 44 and the chances are slim. But still not over the fear.
The midwives were awful. The pain and lack of help after the entire thing. I had postnatal depression after. The whole thing.
So I’m like you. Any advice would be helpful.

Yep, I'm 41 and still can't get past it! I had a hideous pregnancy, my mental health really suffered through it. Scares have sent me spiralling, DH is terrified of making that happen again so we had a spell where nothing really happened in the bedroom. We've reached a balance point now while he decides if he wants the snip....no sex at all mid cycle, condoms every time and checking it carefully afterward (That's a vom face, btw).
Its crippling, I have no desire to be pregnant ever, ever again.

My third baby is three months old. All three were very much planned and wanted but i has them all within the last five years and I'm done done done done done.

I'm terrified of getting pregnant. It's not as if there's much chance of it happening, but the very thought brings me out in a cold sweat. DH has to wait a while for the snip, I can't wait!

I’m so glad I’m not alone in this.

I work with a bloke who was terrified of his wife getting pregnant again, he got the snip sharpish after their 2nd.

I did. I've completed my family. The fear was deep only 2 weeks ago.
Since then a calm has come over me. Because if I were to fall pregnant I would have an abortion with no hesitation.

I have the implant in so I am pretty protected. But for me a pregnancy does not mean that I will have to birth and parent another child.

I have this. I would hate to be pregnant again. When I see pregnancy announcements I think how can you be happy to be pregnant. I still find it hard to get round the idea that people get pregnant on purpose! (Maybe because I forget how old I am now)

I have 5 DC, all planned and loved dearly, but I am DONE!

Have a nagging fear about falling pregnant again, and toying with being sterilised, although it seems like a big operation.

I suppose the urge to get pregnant can be a huge pull for some women at times, so too the fear of it is a huge wall.

I am on the pill and have never had a scare so I’m definitely catastrophising everything.
I mean if I’ve never had a scare or mishap why would I suddenly now! I’m older - 35 - so moving out if my prime years and well, 14 month old not sleeping through I don’t get that much action to start with!

I think we may think to have a second in the future but the current situation is definitely not. But if I got pregnant, I think we’d keep it, in case I couldn’t get pregnant again if that makes sense. I have immuno issues which can cause problems with fertility. And that’s terrifying.

But because we’re saying no right now, and my mental health probably isn’t top notch, hasn’t been from being 20 weeks pregnant with DD, I’m seeing signs on myself that I could be.
And yet I’ve known from DD being weeks old I am not ready to do it again.