Can we have a positive thread about our DH/DPs?

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Currently my DP is sat upstairs helping my DD (not his child) with her homework. He's explaining how to divide fractions patiently and clearly to her. He didn't shirk away when she asked him to help her, he dropped everything and sat with her (after gently chastising her about leaving it until bedtime 😂)

Sometimes I get a little depressed reading all the useless/abusive DH stories on here (probably because I had plenty to post myself when married to my ExH) but I'm feeling a little warm and fuzzy listening to the two of them right now.

My DH is another one who is utterly amazing. He takes such good care of me, is so attentive and lovely. We have 2 children, to whom he is an amazing father, and he has just supported me so well through early pregnancy and, sadly, a miscarriage. Nothing is too much trouble for him and he just clearly loves and adores his family, which is such an attractive quality. I consider myself very lucky to have found him and I listen to some work colleagues about their husbands (and read the threads on here) and wonder how I got so lucky. We're disgustingly in love after over ten years together and I fully plan to still be smooching in the kitchen in our dotage (as my parents do!).

16 years married,three dc (one mine before we got together)that he has been the most awesome dad to and even now child is an adult himself dh helps with decoration,carpet laying,putting up shelves etc etc at child's own place and would drop anything for him.
He's the best dad to our other two dc.
Always laid back and patient with them and me when I'm having a bad week (health issue) and always makes us all laugh 😁
He works his absolute butt off but still comes home after a very very long day and helps with kids,gets on with tea,any cleaning etc that needs to be done.
He encourages me to go out for coffee with friends in my day off and gets a coffee cup and rollie ready for me every single morning before he leaves early.

He txts me to tell me he loves me randomly and that he misses me when our working week collided and we sometimes don't actually see each other for two or three days at a time.

He has some habits that irritate the shit out of me but they pale into significance compared to his plus points

My DH is wonderful. He brings me coffee in bed in the mornings, absolutely does his share of parenting and household stuff and is amazing at looking after me when I’m poorly. I’ve never had to walk on eggshells because I’m worried about what he’ll do or say, we’re normally pretty easy going and don’t argue, but if we do disagree it doesn’t get nasty. He’s incredibly lovely! He always puts me and the kids first. I don’t think I deserve him, but I’m glad I’ve got him anyway!

Some very random things about my dh.

Our 9 month old is a shit sleeper, and is breastfed, so the nights are down to me. My dh gets up early (anytime from 5am) with ds so I can get more sleep.

Today he needed the car to go to an appointment about 40 minutes away. I needed to visit an elderly relative quite nearby. He insisted I took the car as the weather was awful and he took the bus instead despite it making the journey much longer.

We have this chair upstairs that swivels. I stand on it to get things out of the top of the airing cupboard. Every time I do, if he sees, he comes and stands right there so he can catch me if I fall off it.

He always opens doors for me, insists on carrying any bags and offers to hold an umbrella over me when I take ds to the car if its raining. He always takes dd swimming as it is so hot in there it makes me go faint.

One of the nicest things though, is how he talks about me to our children. He is always telling them that they are so lucky to have me and that I'm the best mum in the world. He never stops cheering me on, even when I feel like I'm getting it all wrong.

Mine had to have emergency spinal surgery today after he suddenly stopped being able to wee. It was so scary. We're by no means out of the woods yet but he's making progress and I can't begin to explain how much I'm missing him being at home.

I'm 28 weeks' pregnant tomorrow and so happy that I'm finally going to make him a daddy in May/June (at 44 he never thought he would be one).

Things like this make you realise how much the special people in your life really mean to you

Mine is awesome. On Tuesday I had a call offering me a last minute appointment at the hospital for some treatment I'd been waiting on for months. My DH immediate rearranged his work day to take me and sent me off for a rest when we got back, he picked the kids up and sorted dinner. Which he does most nights anyway
I read so much about the mental load but it's just not a thing in this house. We sort all appointments etc out between us and agree who is dealing with what.

Mine has an evening routine with our 5 month old daughter of dancing with her in his arms and serenading her with love songs.! Her face lights up every time he enters a room... oh! And he cooks me dinner every night and is an amazing chef

I forgot I’d said I’d bake for a charity bake sale at work tomorrow. I remembered at 10:30 tonight and my husband immediately offered to take me to Tesco so I could get the ingredients I need. Also got home this evening to find he’d washed and dried everything in the basket.

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My DH is amazing, I'm literally his biggest fan! He's passionate, emotional, energetic, funny, romantic. All of our kids adore him. He gets up every morning to drop me at work and makes me lunch and a coffee to go. I get flowers and little notes every week. If something needs doing around the house it gets done. If there's something he isn't sure how to do, he will teach himself. He's taught himself to fix cars, weld, plaster, bricklay... He just gets shit done.

My husband is a gem. He does evening session with Our little seven week old and is amazing at getting him for to sleep. He can turn his hand to anything and is currently restoring and fitting ancient real parquet I bagged off ebay- it’s a massive labour of love as each of the 2000 pieces needs work! He makes me breakfast in bed and coffee every single morning and always makes me feel beautiful even now when I am post pregnancy huge and post d section weird shapes. He is gentle, kind, funny, adventurous and a total gentleman and won’t hesitate to do anything for me, ds or the cat! Oh and he does more than his fair share of housework too!

C not d!

I find it really hard to get to sleep so every morning he gets up with DS to give him his bottle and let's me have another hour in bed. He wakes me just before he leaves for work. I'm on mat leave.

My DH is just genuinely lovely and will do anything for me, be it a cuddle or cook or anything else. I love how he drives 100 miles return (and the same in reverse) every single other weekend with no complaint whatsoever to pick up and drop of his kids. My ex can’t even be bothered to text my DS on his birthday so a big drive like that would be out of the question.

I've been lucky to have a wonderful soul mate. Sadly he passed away at a young age. My new partner is lovely in lots of ways too . I try not to compare as each was/is unique . But sometimes I wish I could mould them both together. I've had a crap boyfriend in between so can empathise with some of the threads . It's good to know there's good people out there !

My husband is the only man I could have had a baby with. He's kind, patient, gets up with me in the night to make a bottle so I can calm baby by breast feeding a bit first, leaves me a coffee in a travel mug in the morning so I can drink it while cuddling DD in bed and not worry about spills, is generous and loving.

He isn't one for sentimental gifts and I'm more likely to get new flooring for the kitchen than a Xmas present, but he looks after me every day, in a million tiny ways. I read so many posts about partners who expect the mum to fund the children or expect her to continue with her financial contribution to bills etc whilst on mat leave - and I'm so thankful for a DH who just pays his salary into a joint account every month and has never once suggested a distinction between our incomes or that I will be responsible for childcare costs etc.
And despite not being a cat person, he regularly sleeps with his head crooked on the mattress so the cat can sleep on his pillow
❤️

My DP is amazing. I don't have to worry about "the mental load" he just does house work and looks after our DD without any direction and input from myself which surprisingly seems to be unusual.
He works 6 nights a week so I can have the next year off work while I look after our baby daughter. When he gets home from work at 6:30am our DD is usually just waking up and even though he has just worked 11 hours he takes her after I feed her so I can have an extra couple of hours rest.

Aww this is cute! My DP is a star. He's sweet and kind and genuinely would do anything for me. He's driven the hour commute between home and my work three times due to me forgetting my keys/forgetting my laptop/having my train cancelled. If he's out shopping and he sees something he thinks I would like, he buys it for me. He's just a lovely person.

Now if only I could do something about his snoring

After years of bad relationships my dp is amazing. I suffer from anxiety and stress but since we got together the attacks have dwindled, and when I did have one in front of him he instinctively knew what to do and then reassured me that it was ok. He’s great with dd, and helps so much around the house, and for the first time ever I feel loved.
It feels great!

These are so lovely to hear! DP got up early this morning to help DD finish. He's busy explaining a type of division I'd never heard of before, he's awesome

I only got married a month ago so I'm still in the newly wed loved up bubble! My dh is the most lovely man I've ever met and I feel incredibly lucky to have found him. We make each other laugh, he's very thoughtful, fab with my two teenagers. He loves cooking and is just so loving to me. He's never grumpy with me or tries to play mind games. I love that man to bits 💕💕

Oh and he loves clothes shopping more than me....what's not to love 🤷‍♀️