Escaped noisy neighbours and have new noisy neighbours. Help!

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We just bought a new house and everything seemed to check out nicely.

Except when it came to 11pm most nights.

The family next to us has two kids, roughly the same age as ours.(9 & 12 I believe) But the noise at night once I’ve put my kids down to sleep is bonkers. Doors slamming, kids screaming and jumping around, and we were woke at midnight last night to their kids playing and their dog whining and barking in their room! I’m totally open to normal kid noise, but this is beyond.

I’m gutted, we left our last property as the students downstairs were hell, and causing our oldest sleep and anxiety issues. Lack of sleep triggers seizures.

Funnily enough I have spoken to neighbours at the other side of my house and gave them gifts to apologise for the noise during the renovations. I never hear a peep. I went round to do the same for the noisy lot but I’ve still yet to meet them, they never answer and I’m starting to think the kids are unattended a lot of evenings.

I’m not sure how to approach it without being the new nippy neighbour :/ can anyone help

you moved to get away from neighbours....but moved to what? you sound like you need a detached house in a field

its all normal family/people noise

Kids playing at midnight is not normal family noise ffs.

I have noisy-ish neighbours (terrace) and it drives me crackers. But they do go to bed at a reasonable hour and bring me pierogies when they make a big batch so I can just about cope.

Have you met the new neighbours op? Could you pop round/note through the door?

No @SapphireSalute I will tolerate normal family noise.

Screaming, banging and barking dogs at that time of night isn’t normal and can be stopped.

@TeddyIsaHe I actually bought them some wine and chocs and dog treats to thank them for putting up with the renovations (which went no longer past 6-7pm) but no one answered the door. :(

So I do still have them and an opportunity but how to word?

maybe the kids were ill or something? at 9 and 12 they need to be up for school so if 'playing at midnight' was a nightly event they would never get into school the next day!

Maybe the children have a condition like ADHD, Sapphire. A friend had a neighbour whose youngest child had severe ADHD and could be heard running up and down the landing from 9-4am most nights.

It was awful for my friend, but worse, I'm sure for the parents.

at 9 and 12 they need to be up for school so if 'playing at midnight' was a nightly event they would never get into school the next day!

You’d think, but it’s happening most nights!

@Zaphodsotherhead it’s something I’ve considered, and I would empathise, but I too have a child with ASD and ADHD suffering.

It's not normal noise, are you fucking kidding? Banging and screaming and barking until midnight??

I dunno what to say to them?
Feign concern? Ask them if everything’s ok? 🙈

and surprise surprise, there's a dog in this feral family...

pity the person who thinks it is normal won't house swap with you. Kids screaming at that time is disgusting.

I can only suggest trying a polite word, and when it fails (it will - the dog is an indication) start the process with the council. Don't hold your breath.

its all normal family/people noise

I take issues with this sentiment.
Of you live in a property with neighbours, you should have some common decency and consideration and keep noise to a minimum.
But it seems these days that's gone out the window and selfishness has replaced it.

"My kids want to bang jump around and make noise, fuck the neighbours, they can like it or lump it, it's just normal noise."
No no no. Some parents need to learn to parent like parents used to.

It’s such a shame as the neighbours on the other side are great, I don’t hear a peep out of their dog, or them.

I fear the sellers of our house knew this... they seemed to speak fondly about the quiet ones and briefly about the noisy ones...

Of you live in a property with neighbours, you should have some common decency and consideration and keep noise to a minimum

I just couldn’t imagine letting my kids try it once. It’s disrespectful.
It worries me more what kind of people they are to be so accepting of it then

Have you tried knocking for them at different times of the day? Perhaps they will open the door during the day. Good luck.

I might attempt now and see. The kids shouldn’t be in and I can hear someone in!

It seems increasingly the first response on any thread is to sneer at the OP. It's obviously NOT normal family noise.

I sympathise OP. We moved because of horrible neighbours and now we have neighbours a few doors down who let their big dog bark incessantly in the garden, occasionally into the night. It woke me up at 2.15am the other night, so I went round there to complain yesterday. There were really surprised. I couldn't believe nobody else had challenged them about it - there are 3 houses between us and them!

There are some horribly inconsiderate people about OP. Sadly all you can do is keep a level head and state your case to them. Ask them to at least keep the dog away from the children at night. Do they own or rent do you know?

I feel for you. My old neighbours were the same. Kids were feral and would frequently be running around at 1am in the morning screaming and slamming doors. In fairness to the mum, she did try and stop them but her efforts only extended to her screaming 'shut up and go to bed' at the top of her lungs several times a night while they just ignored her.
Never have I been so pleased to move to a detached house!

This is why it should be compulsory to stay in any home you’re thinking of buying for a week beforehand!
Sounds awful OP - that would do my head in. I suspect you’re right and the kids are maybe home alone which is sad.
Other than speak to them politely and hope they’re reasonable what else can you do?

I will never go back to having neighbours!

Did they answer? I hope it went well.

It went as well as I hoped and the neighbour was actually lovely!! I did say it was a bit noisy and explained a little as to why I wasn’t cool with it.

But she was nice and we chatted about the neighbourhood and I’d totally do coffee with her.

Turns out the kids are much much older (two are young adult and there’s another young teen) but she’s on shifts so I wonder if they are just playing up behind her back.

That sounds really positive!

The local authority here (my location) have moved families that are, I shall be polite in calling them 'challenging' or rather their children are. Screaming for no reason, constantly coming into our garden as well as other residents, they throw cans and crisp packets into the garden, they have damaged cars with football playing as well as throwing stones, they have kicked and broken fences. They've even sat on car roofs (not ours) We've tried talking to the parents but no joy, they think their little darlings are pure angels, the local authority don't give a damn, the police have said they were just playing. If we could afford to move we would in an instant but just can't as both my partner and I both have health problems. All we want is peace and quiet.....just a shame we've had this going on for about 15 YEARS !!