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This school is a cesspit of white privilege, misogyny, homophobia, and anti-semitism. I would strongly advise reconsidering if you come from a minority background, are an immigrant, or even if you have daughters to be honest. There is absolutely egregious examples of sexual violence, racial discrimination, and just blatant misogyny.
To give some background, I attended this school. I was quite a happy student up until the sixth form, when I was sexually assaulted by another student who then threatened me with violence if I said anything. Now, I do believe in holding individuals accountable for their actions, however, what happened to me was not a lone incident, and other examples of horrifying sexual violence is frequent, and perpetuated by the culture of privilege at that school. my personality changed entirely, I became severely depressed and withdrawn due to the disgust and humiliation I felt towards myself and my body, and I became barely able to function normally as I barely wanted to live. the school wasn't very understanding, and mainly focused on the fact my grades had slipped in the aftermath. Now, I could go on to list every instance of misogyny, but I think this example nicely encapsulates Berkhamstedian attitudes. I think this is an issue within older years specifically the sixth form, but it is really important to keep in mind.
I have witnessed some truly shocking examples of racism from students, those who come from a rich white background have a tendency to ostracise those who don't.
the school is very competitive, which is a good thing. if your child is competitive and strong willed in either sport or academics, this school would be a good fit. however, I do urge you to consider that this competitiveness does extend to family wealth and social status, small 'elitist' groups forming of those who are more privileged than the others.
Personally, I really value my education. I think a vital part of education is being exposed to what is different to the norm, in order to nurture an accepting, curious, well rounded person who is socially adept and willing to treat everyone with kindness. This is NOT what Berkhamsted School is. The majority of students are white, upper middle class, and conservative. there is nothing wrong from being this background, however it creates a homogenous attitude that tends to reject 'otherness' and in turn makes racist behaviour acceptable, as they go unchallenged by students and staff. At my time at Berkhamsted School, I would regularly hear racial slurs being thrown around like it was nothing.
Personally, I would not recommend Berkhamsted School. Whilst I am am very grateful to have received a top tier education, which Berkhamsted does provide, I think it is in a bubble from the outside world. the majority of these children have never really interacted with people from different backgrounds from them, and when they do, a portion of them react badly.
I haven't come on here to slate Berkhamsted as a personal Vendetta, because the school has given me an excellent education which is allowing me attend a highly respected University. I have had good memories here, however the noise of racism and misogyny amongst other things within the school is too loud and overarching to ignore.