Just unutterably muderous PMS rage, I need your emergency quick-fixes PLEASE!!!

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I'm 3 days away from my period and the rage has struck me.

OH MY GOD everything is making me murderous, even the sound of my totally beloved DD eating raspberries earlier made me want to explode (I didn't) Things have come to a pretty pass when a 6 year old eating soft fruit makes you want to self-combust.

Don't even get me started on everything about my DH, he's a lovely man but today I want to kill him, I can't even be in the same room as him without wanting to nit-pick and start a fight.

I feel viscerally angry and twitchy.

Tonight I have to bloody WORK (emails that seriously cannot wait) so I can't even just go to bloody bed.

DD isn't well so I suspect I will be home with her tomorrow which isn't helping my mood.

Corona virus is SHIT and I'm sick of all the sitting around waiting to get it, it's just another bloody thing to worry about.

But really, it's just hormones and I'm so fed up.

I'm normally a nice-enough person, I promise. My family likes me. I have nice friends.

I'm 44. Does this just get worse?

I take EPO (when I remember). I drink less coffee. I could exercise more but I do some, and I walk in the fresh air. I eat well.

This month seems particularly bad, I had another bad one about 5 -6 months ago but it wasn't so bad the last few.

I'm so angry with the very air around me that I want to scream!!!

Please tell me how I can make it better tonight and tomorrow?

I was going to suggest evening primrose but you've already mentioned it.

Erm - seethe inwardly then kick something really hard and really hurt your toe and cry in despair? Totally unhelpful but might take your mind off the hideousness by adding extra hideousness to it.

Sounds like peri menopause. I never had PMT until PM hit me.

Yesterday I got it out of my system by waiting until everyone was out of the house and telling my dog want a fucking selfish cunt everyone I lived with was and all the reasons why. I think I ranted at him for a solid ten minutes but in that high pitched cutesy poo kind of way that made him just wag his tail and think he was getting attention. It worked though, I feel much better today and far less likely to want to murder DH and my arsehole teenagers in their sleep

Sympathy though, it turns me into a completely different (and really fucking unpleasant) person at times.

Ah ok so it sounds like I need a dog...

Thanks both. I would rather cry than carry on feeling so muderous so kicking a wall not an awful idea...

Yes I think it is peri menopause; my mum had it very badly in her mid-40s (with hindsight; at the time I just thought she was a horrible shrieking harpy). I need to get mine under control better than she did :(

HRT. ASAP.

I find a good stompy walk, followed by sitting alone with a treat calms me down

Is lots of chocolate an option?

I am that horrible shrieking harpy and I am peri. Also knackered as I can’t sleep. I spend my morning shouting at my daughter then spend all day at work feeling awful about it, yet ten minutes back from school with her and I am yelling again. I never used to shout.

HRT, or if you dont want to go down that route, then I did find agnus castus made a difference.
When I get really bad though, i take a diazepam and try and get an early night

Don’t I need other symptoms to get HRT? Everything else is still ticking alone just fine, it’s just the 2-3 days of rage

Kalim, lots of chocolate is currently being consumed...

Currently (inconsistently) trying: B-vitamins, vit D spray, mindfulness-based CBT, running and chocolate. The only ones I am doing regularly are the running and the chocolate .

Will add EPO into the mix, thanks for the reminder.

Thank you everyone. You are the only people I do not wish to scream at. Even if you are eating raspberries.

For those of you who think likely peri, how old are you? Is 44 about right age for that to kick in?

I’ve just turned 44 and you’ve just described my exact mood two days ago, which was four days before my period’s due. Exact mood. Killer rage. I’m also thinking perimenopause.

I had a large gin, a hot bath, and an hour where I hid in the bedroom and seethed.

Peri is bascially years of being Chewbacca angry.

I'm only 38 but have been exactly the same for about 10-14 days of each cycle. It's been like this for about a year now. Pill didn't help, just made me fatter but still equally full of rage and tears. GP isn't going to give me anything at my age is (s)he?

Self isolation.... alas not practical!!!

I take magnesium, taurine and Vit B6 which seems to have helped.

Ive had this as a 'normal' PMT for years/decades now, although it took me at least 15 years to accept / realise that I was being unreasonable and people around me weren't massive fucking idiots for crimes such as: putting the cup of tea they made me on a coaster with the handle turned the wrong number of degrees away from me, walking too loudly and probably being guilty of doing things I could IMAGINE them doing (that was a particularly bad month).
It’s basically awful and you have my sympathy. I've done the following :
Been very very open about what's happening (or about to happen)
Avoid people as much as possible
Self medicate with lots of unhealthy food but that did cheer me up (Im talking cheese) but in return has left me very overweight (following a diet for the rest of the month can only compensate so far)
Channeling it into an ACTUAL wrong (say Climate Change) and ranting about that instead rather than how much I want to take revenge on people for cheeing too loudly
Just crying (sad film watching)

People can tell me to eat more salad around that time to alleviate the symptoms as much as they want but it is like telling a hungry lioness to peel a radish. It aint gonna happen.

Yep I sympathise, I'm 43 and this last year has been hell with regards to mood swings, it became less like rage as time went on and more like chronic depression for at least 14 days of the month, I've never cried so much in my life consistently over such a long period of time.
My Dr prescribed me Qlaira (this after vowing I'd never touch another hormonal contraceptive ever!) I'm not sure whether you'd be successful with HRT if you are still having regular cycles. I believe Qlaira is targeted for perimenopausal women especially, but I could be wrong on that!
7 days in and I feel more balanced than I have done in over a year! ( Usually get really down on days 5-7 of my cycle and then I'm ok for about 10 days and then it all starts again post ovulation!
IT'S A BLOODY NIGHTMARE)
I also take Vit B+D complex, omega 3, EPO and magnesium supplements.

Repeat listening of Alestorm’s “Fucked With An Anchor” while jumping around (shadow) boxing

My sister calls pmt a truth serum. Always makes me chuckle!

I know you mentioned EPO OP but only taking it when you remember. I'm 47 and take a high dose daily and find the results amazing. I get a bit crabbit but no rage at all and I used to be terrible.

I feel your rage, OP, and empathise fully! I'm 43 and feeling the same. I shocked myself with my anger recently and have now booked an appointment with the GP to discuss it because it's making me miserable. I don't feel depressed at all, but I do feel like everyone is out to rile me on a daily basis and at some point I'm going to lose my shit in an unedifying way.

I'm off to look up Qlaira now!

www.pms.org.uk/assets/files/guidelinesfinal60210.pdf

Excellent resource in the above. Towards the end there is a flow chart with doses etc. Avoid St Johns Wort as interacts with other items.

I would also suggest this..

rockmymenopause.com/

I would also suggest taking proper advice from your GP, or one who has a specialist interest rather than dosing following non-evidence based advice from this site

Hope that helps OP

My supplement regime is from a PMDD support website set up by US specialists. The best treatment is natural oestrogen (not synthetic like in the pill) but it costs £££££££££

I suffer with chronic mastalgia too and it certainly seems to help.