Threads you almost posted...but didn't

[chomalungma]

I was just about to post a thread about my first online supermarket shop being an hour and 15 mins late at 11.15pm and what should I do about it - when my phone rang and it arrived. It was all written, but just as I was about to press 'post', the problem was solved.

What threads have you typed out, almost posted, and then didn't actually post?

I will probably get flamed for this one but just a few minutes ago I almost posted a thread on why MN can be so vicious at times. But I knew it would not go well.

Me. I often want to talk about my marriage. But I cant

krazynights why not?

Lots of hysterical middle of the night worries. Some angry rants, some self pitying ones. Some that would have outed me. Most of all, things I decided to just google instead

same as krazynights. i cant get away.

Nearly posted about having to see a family member who I hate with an absolute passion for various reasons at a different family members event soon. I don't really have a way out of not going. I'm refusing to take the kids but I have to see someone I have refused contact with for over 14 years and not met their kids and vice versa and I feel sick at the thought. I've also not seen other people there that I've been nc with in over 3 years. But to give details in a specific post as to why and how I'm at this point would be very outing as I suspect they are on here.

I regularly want to post about my worries that it's too late for me to be TTC my first at 37. But I know that it'll be divided between people saying it is too late, think about autism etc, and people saying it's absolutely fine and they were older when they had their first. I know there's no point in seeking a consensus for a personal thing, but it's always tempting to try!

I composed a thread in my head last night about the things you hate ppl posting on here.

I had quite a list. I was getting myself into a bad mood. I hadn't slept at all.

I didn't post it. However, I reserve the right to do so & piss everyone off.

I nearly posted on a thread that not only was the OP's opponent was a lunatic shitbag, but they also couldn't spell. However, politeness demanded that only the first insult make it off the keyboard.

Last week I was using my fab little Beaba Babycook to whiz up some guacamole when it struck me that it's nearly 13 years old, my 'baby' is now the same height as me, and it has been used to make smoothies and milkshakes and guacamole and hummus and all sorts for many, many years longer than I was expecting when I bought it - in fact, DH moaned about me ordering it because he said we'd barely get any use out of it! It's a tiny little steamer-and-blender combo designed for weaning babies but it's the perfect size for whizzing up small quantities or single servings of things. I got to thinking that I should start a thread on baby items that are still useful many years after your babies have grown up, and the fucker chose that precise moment to break spectacularly - the blades detached from whatever the thing is called that they're attached to and the entire mechanism disintegrated. So that was that - end of Babycook, end of thread!

@spiderlight

Bloody typical! I have had quite a few threads about things I should or shouldn't buy that have quickly not made it to fruition once I actually looked at my bank balance, and many about tv recommendations only to hear a child start whinging and run out of time to post let alone watch anything. Also, many many times a post hasn't sent due to internet issues and I've decided to accept it as divine intervention that I was not meant to ask the question. But never an exploding blender!

@spiderlight start that thread... 13 years is a bloody good innings for a kitchen doovy to last.

I’m back to answer that question. I can’t because I know everyone would tell me to leave but I have a child who is so heavily dependent on me (physically disabled, possibly more “clever” than her years) and if I left and died, what would happen to her?
I’m so lost sometimes.
I have to placate this insensitive and utterly useless man because if I die, she has no- one. My family live abroad.
Sigh.

@Krazynights34
I once felt trapped like you. My family live abroad and as a result of a disgusting dh, I’ve become isolated. However, often we become dependent on the very people who are sucking out our own independence. That’s how they keep you trapped. I actually found out that a complete stranger on more than one occasion has shown me more support, kindness and consideration than my stbeh has ever done.
I like Mumsnet. It’s literally full of really decent (mostly) people from all walks of life with a whole range of experience. Not all will say what you want to hear but in here, ask for opinions, you get them. A lot of the women or men who tell you to leave, advise you that because they’ve been there and come out the other side. To be the mum you can be, you need to look after yourself first. Remove the cause of distress and angst. In time you’ll take back a little more of yourself, but by bit. Get posting, you might surprise yourself.

I often want to post on relationship threads, but know that the advice rarely takes into account the actual emotions of the OP. Just turns everything into black and white, with healthy boundaries, LTB etc. Not so much what motivations and valid emotions are.. So i went to a counsellor, which was much more effective!