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7 year gap or no second child?

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opphf · 02/03/2020 21:55

We wanted 2 children but we found having one much harder than we thought then when we felt ready to try again it took a long time to fall pregnant and then we have suffered losses

Dc1 is now 7 and I wonder if it's too late now

Would it be detrimental to dc1

Any experiences?

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WorraLiberty · 02/03/2020 21:57

I have 3 boys and there's 7.5 years between the eldest and the middle one (10.5yrs between eldest and youngest).

Absolutely no problems at all. The eldest dotes on them both and they're now 28, nearly 21 and 17.

WorraLiberty · 02/03/2020 21:58

I should also add that I'm the youngest of 5 siblings and I've always been closest to my sister who's 10 years older than me.

fartingsparkles · 02/03/2020 22:00

I've just over 6.5 years between my 2 and it's been great

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CalmdownJanet · 02/03/2020 22:02

I have a 7 year ago between mine and it's great, they get on very well together, my older child is brilliant with my younger. And I'm not far off having a free babysitter

MrsBlondie · 02/03/2020 22:12

6.5 years between my kids and dont regret it for a second

Oakmaiden · 02/03/2020 22:18

I have 6 years between my first two. I ended up with a surprise number 3 17 months later, though. My first two get on OK, but aren't really close. Number 2 and number 3 were very very close as children, but less so as teens. Number 1 and 3 hated one another as children (1 picked on 3) but get on better now.

So much depends on the individual personalities.

ThickSock · 02/03/2020 22:19

There’s 6 years and 9 years gaps respectively between my brothers and me. I’m exceptionally close to DB who is 6 years older and growing up was very close indeed to both. I remember us all playing with Lego and watching tv together and they looked after me after school a lot. Ours was a very positive experience and none of us felt the age gaps mattered growing up and as adults still don’t.

GrumpyHoonMain · 02/03/2020 22:21

Depends on your health really.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 02/03/2020 22:21

My DS is 13 years younger than his next brother, and 19 years younger than his oldest brother (DH's sons from his first marriage). He gets on great with the middle brother, no jealousy or anything as he was growing up (other than because his brother didn't have his mum and dad living together and DS did) and DS was an usher at DSS2's wedding. DSS1 and DS have little in common other than their dad, because DSS1 didn't live at home for long when DS was small. But then DSS2 and DSS1 don't really get on either, and they lived together for 14 years.

I am an older sibling by 10 years. My little sister was my shadow as a child which was a bit irritating (I would go up to bed and she would be asleep in my bed, having crept in from her own room) but I loved having a little one to pet and she was good practice for when I had DS at 21!

Neighneigh · 02/03/2020 22:22

Same, we have 6.5 years between my boys and they dote on each other. School pick up at 3pm is the little one's favourite time of day. The only time it's hard is during the school holidays and you have to entertain two people at quite different stages of their lives. But overall I'd really recommend it

DefConOne · 02/03/2020 22:23

7.5 years between me and brother (not planned that way, my mum had a loss when I was 3). I was delighted to get a sibling. I had to look after him a lot as a teen which was a pain. We have a pretty good relationship now and i really appreciate having someone to share family stuff with, bereavement particularly. He’s good at sharing the load. DH is an only so my brother has supplied cousins to my DC.

Hadenoughofitall441 · 02/03/2020 22:23

There 5 years between my two and they are totally different. Me and my sister have a 16 year age gap, even though we clash and she do3s my head in we get on pretty well otherwise. It all depends on thier personality’s.

ThickSock · 02/03/2020 22:27

AndNone I was my elder brothers little shadow. I’d climb into bed with him in about 6 am, wake him up and make him tell me stories. At one point I insisted my bed was moved into his bedroom. I remember he used to bring an orange up to eat before bed. The smell must have woke me up and demand orange segments with menaces. I used to drive his friends crazy as I was madly in love with them and would make any excuse to come down when they visited of an evening. I was very indulged and was sort of like a little pet. I was tiny for my age which probably added to that. He has always been a great dad to his DC and I I reckon acting like a mini-parent to me helped

Verite1 · 02/03/2020 22:27

Nearly 7 years difference between mine. Has worked out fantastically. Wouldn’t change it even if I could.

Raindancer411 · 02/03/2020 22:35

I am pregnant with my second and have a 7 year old. He is excited and will be 8 not long after baby is born. It's nice as I got time with just me and him and now he is at school, I will get time just with this little one too

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