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Why do I always stress and feel guilty about minor things?

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kevintheorangecarrot · 01/03/2020 10:39

I have no idea what has contributed to it but I have found that I stress and get upset so easily over the silliest things. For example if work asks me to do overtime and I say that I cannot, I immediately start to feel very stressed and guilty for letting them down. If my child is poorly and I had to leave work early, they actually sat me down and told me to calm down because they could see I was starting to get upset and hyperventilate. I was stressed as 1) my child is ill and I am worried about his health and 2) possibility of losing my job because I have left early. When I cannot go in the following day, I am feeling ill and stressed because nothing is going right. It would be a disaster if I ever lost my job. My husbands income alone will not cover it. Everything I've ever done for my family and everyone else is to do whatever makes them happy. I don't care about my own happiness I just want other people to be happy and content. Like if my husband is at home, I feel guilty and I always tell him to go out and enjoy himself with his friends because I'm worried he is bored and fed up. I am also bored and fed up but I don't care. I never complain or portray that to other people. I'm just fed up of feeling like this and it's making me feel ill and have a headache. I say I don't care about what people think but I genuinely do. I am afraid of what people are saying about me or maybe thinking the worse of me Sad

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Wrigleys123 · 01/03/2020 12:05

In the nicest possible way maybe you could use some therapy to see why you feel like this? I'm a bit of a people pleaser too and hate letting people down but if my child is ill I will never feel guilty for prioritising her.

Submariner · 01/03/2020 12:15

I agree with Wrigleys. My anxiety sounds very similar to yours. I'm having counselling at the moment and it's really helping to unpick all this. It feels very strange but lovely to start to get a handle on some of these feelings.

Woollycardi · 01/03/2020 12:16

This is your one precious life. Non of the stuff that you are saying is silly is actually silly. Your mental health is struggling, so please ask for help and go to therapy.

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