Has anyone changed their relationship with food.

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Ad lost weight. And kept it off? I have generally always been slim. The last few years, I have had 2 children, seperated, deviped a thyroid problem and seemingly, started using foid for pleasure.

I am no longer able to go to the exercise classes, go for a run, cycle, horse ride etc that I did pre kids, because, well there are 2 small children that I handbrake with me .

So I'm fat. But am really struggling to get started with losing weight. J just can't seem to do it.

I genuinely have. My PT encouraged me to not see foods as good or bad, or dieting. It's about making really conscious thoughts and planning what you're going to eat. And no deprivation. She encourages me if I'm having a bad day and want to indulge, to do so, but to then stick to my plan the next day. Eventually, I do it less and less. I also joined a group on Facebook which posts hundreds of keto and low carb recipes a day and I love cooking those and instead of seeing it as a "diet" meal, it's simply something different that just happens to not have so many carbs in. I used to eat horrendously. Like it was shameful,but normal. Honestly I think my trick was not limiting myself in the way of "right I'm never eating this again or I'm sticking to such a diet.." it was about improving my standard of food over all. Sorry if that's a bit waffly.

God grief, apologies for the typos.

My dh decided to go keto. He cooks so I have as well. I've lost weight and it's stayed off. I was eating huge amounts of carb and it just seemed to creep up on me. Many find lowering their carb, replacing with veg, cutting out sugars and cutting out processed foods. My appetite has dropped and I've had to change how I think about carbs and fats. My relationship with food had become ridiculous. I was eating takeaways 2-3 times a week, the quantities i could put away had more than doubled. I've been doing this for about 18 mths and it seems to be working fine. It's also flagged up that my tummy problems were most likely wheat intolerance.

Bumping as I need to do this. Find cutting carbs really hard though. Might just start by trying no biscuits / choc/ cakes / crisps!!

Yes, I used to weigh 14 stone 11 and lost almost 5 stone. Have kept it off for around a year, barring 5 or 6 pounds (due to lifestyle changes). Am determined to lose those few pounds again.
Two things did it for me.
Firstly - exercise. I do mostly swimming and walking, plus little workouts indoors. I now feel like a fit healthy person who can move around easily, instead of a bloated person who gets out of breath climbing stairs and all hot and sweaty. I can't have it both ways. If I want to feel good physically I have to watch what I eat.
Secondly - I learnt to keep it simple (due to financial issues). Simple plain food, as nutritious as possible, usually cooked from scratch. Things like porridge, homemade soup, lentil curry, beans on toast, eggs, etc etc. A little bit boring sometimes, but it means you start eating because of need rather than for fun. I'm not saying 'never have a treat', but keep them to a minimum and then you enjoy them much more.

Student Jan plying around with food you need to relearn a relationship. Google mindful ezting. Basically it means only eating when you're hungry. Nothing is banned but there is strict portion control with carbs and protein but veg are not resticted. Before anyone says it's like slimming world or ww it's not because the focus is on you not on food. The first step is identifying if you're hungry ie stomach rumbling , or mouth hungry ie I fancy a bad of chocolate etc You would eat in the first instance but not in the second. If you snack limit it, my dietician swears he snack extension. Basically this is having a snack and then finishing it with something like a piece of fruit or raw carrot. This stops you from eating the rest of the packet, the whole bar etc. Feel and taste The food and eat slowly.

I have. Im 53 and have kept off 4.5st i lost 4 yrs ago. Ive developed a genuine love of exercise (long dog walks, fast alone time walking and dancing vigorously in kitchen with 1kg weights to cheesey music) I calorie count and its like a hobby, involving nice notebooks, recipes and lists. Nothing is disallowed, im a real foodie. I stopped drinking alcohol many years ago as i didn't like the way it made me feel and i often wished calorie laden treats made me feel the same. Well, now, i avoid over eating them because they genuinely make me feel soporific, bloated and heart burny. Im 'normal ' now, in that I'll have a chocolate biscuit or two whenever i want them. I would truly regret having 8, like before, because of how id feel physically, after.

I have definitely. Start by finding lots of healthy things you can eat. Food becomes a pleasure not something filled with guilt. Then slowly get rid of more and more of the unhealthy things.

I have yo-yo dieted all my adult life. I have lost and put back on over 500lb over the last 20 years.

Last year something clicked. I went very low carb (no fruit, no sugar, no starch, no pulses) and loosely followed 16:8. The weight fell off, I am hardly ever hungry, but above all I have realised this is not a temporary diet - this is my new lifestyle. Once I reach my target weight there will be room for the occasional treat meal, but I am never going back to my old ways.

I am 30kg lighter (that's 66lb) than a year ago.

Thanks for all of the replies.

For me, exercise isn't the issue, it's food. I know what I need to do to lose weight. I just can't seem to break the cycle of foid being my only pleasure, the thing I do for myself. I don't have the opportunity to do the things I used to enjoy, due to being single with small children, so it seems like I've turned to food.
I know if I could run/cycle/Exercise class several times a week I would enjoy it and maybe that would help me stop eating shite, but it's not an option for me at the moment or, realistically , the next couple of years.

Do your children sleep sometimes Nottalotta? I have 4 DCs including a 1-year-old who is a terrible sleeper. However she has recently started napping for at least an hour during the day (at totally unpredictable times, but you can't have everything...). Nevermind housework, as soon as she is asleep, I jump into my sports clothes, plonk the other DCs in front of screens if necessary, and do a fitness workout at home.

If she slept more regularly like "normal" babies I would probably wake up earlier and exercise first thing in the morning.

I changed my relationship with food... but not for the better and have put on 4 stone in the past 10 years or so.

Following with interest!

@RoyalChocolat they do sleep, at bedtime. So in theory I could do an exercise routine at home. The reality is, I hate it, and won't keep it up. What a love is running, cycling, riding, swimming, group classes like Zuma and body pump. For me the exercise keeps me mentally happy and that helps a lot when it comes what I eat.