Scared I won't love my baby

[Alirose111]

Hi, I'm 28 and this will be my first child. I'm 7 weeks. I just dont have that exciting feeling I feel in should have, I fact I feel fairly depressed at the thought of being responsible for somet6for the rest of its life. I'm very scared I will have PND , my mother did with me...she even went as far as to try and smother me, we never bonded and don't talk. I'm so scared and feel very guilty because I know so many women want to be in my position, a loving boyfriend, pregnant etc. I'm also scared gat this now means I will be trapped living with my BF and child forever...like I said I know I sound very childish. Am I a total monster? Thanks.

Honestly I'm absolutely not. I'm terrified about this 2nd baby! I realised quite quickly to stop comparing myself to other people because they look like they have it all sorted.

Hi OP, all previous posters have said what I was going to say, so I won't repeat. But you will be a great mum. Take support where you need it, your midwife will be there to help you.

Most of all, don't best yourself up for any negative feelings, it's completely natural from your pas

I have a newborn and a 5 year old. I am a similar age as yourself OP.
I didn't "bond" with either of them while pregnant. Still didn't bond once born, not at first. I think it took at least a few days and grew slowly over the coming weeks. And that's natural, for me it felt like self-protection or something.
There's a lot of pressure to feel excited and full of love immediately but it isn't like that for lots of us. And it doesn't mean you don't care about the baby, it's just a hell of a lot to process and adapt too.
I'm pretty confident i'm a good mum and I'm so proud of the wonderful human being my 5 year old is growing into. I'd do everything and anything for my kids. I didn't think i'd turn out to be this happy when pregnant with my first, it was incredibly overwhelming (even if i didnt feel overwhelmed at the time). Wish you the best.