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Child's party on Mothers Day

96 replies

birdling · 29/02/2020 12:36

If your child was invited to a party on Mothers Day, would you accept?
Is there a particular time that would be preferable?
Thanks

OP posts:
RhymingRabbit3 · 29/02/2020 14:54

Yes I would go. A kids party will only be a few hours, still plenty of time to do some family stuff the rest of the day - and dad can take the kids to the party so mum can have a lie in!

However my parents arent bothered about mothers day and wouldnt mind seeing us on the Saturday instead. Some parents/in laws make a big fuss about seeing family on the day and this can be tricky, especially if they live far away so would involve travel time.

SueEllenMishke · 29/02/2020 14:58

Marshall why is it selfish to celebrate/do something on mother's Day?

itsgettingweird · 29/02/2020 15:08

I'd accept.

But then my ds has been invited to a swim meet this MD. This involves me travelling to said meet and being his helper poolside.

I didn't have kids to then prevent their hobbies or socialisation due to a marketing day!

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squeekums · 29/02/2020 15:09

nope, i like a sleep in/lazy day on mothers day
Last thing i want to do is go to a kids party or think about one, sorry

SisterAgatha · 29/02/2020 15:17

Seeing your family is still social, they see their cousins too, it’s not just adults sitting around clinking champagne glasses and celebrating the glory of us while the kids drool with boredom. Often we pick somewhere to eat with a play area for the cousins. It’s one of the only times we really get together, so I think it’s more selfish to host on a day like that than it is to refuse an invitation.

SisterAgatha · 29/02/2020 15:19

Oh bloody hell, I see it now! Grin I did mean to write posterity, honestly!

Gruffalosandbuffalos · 29/02/2020 15:19

We are going to one this year, soft play at lunchtime. Didn’t really bother me that it was Mother’s Day as we wouldn’t really have had plans anyway.

Butterfly02 · 29/02/2020 15:25

I have a dc with birthday close to mother's day. I've always avoided party being on mothers day (unless it's been just family). Not because I wouldn't send my kids roles being reversed but because I think many children will maybe have prior commitments on that day.

LeavingTheTable · 29/02/2020 15:57

Don't give a fuck about Mother's Day and wouldn't dream of spoiling my DC's fun over it.

SueEllenMishke · 29/02/2020 16:05

leaving my DS will still have fun on mother's Day ....just not at a kids party.
Why are people assuming that mothers day plans mean kids won't have fun or socialise? We'll go out for a meal with close friends and family ....loads of kids and we all always have a good time.

Its not selfish to prioritise family time over someone else's kids party.

june2007 · 29/02/2020 16:06

Yes it won,t take all day

Original poster
birdling · 29/02/2020 16:12

Mixed bag then...
I'm not really any nearer making a decision
Thanks all. Smile

OP posts:
SellFridges · 29/02/2020 16:17

I had DS’s party last year on Mother’s Day. Didn’t even realise when I booked it. I also failed to notice it was the day the clock’s change.

Out of 25 kids invited, one didn’t come. She did say they had Mother’s Day plans. The other 24 came along, more than usual with dad’s who saw it as a way to kill two birds with one stone and tire the kids out while the mum’s relaxed at home. MN is not representative on this type of thing imo.

Poppinjay · 29/02/2020 16:19

Don't give a fuck about Mother's Day and wouldn't dream of spoiling my DC's fun over it.

I didn't give two hoots about it while my two were of an age to go to children's birthday parties. A card from them was lovely first thing but anything else was from another adult and therefore pretty meaningless anyway.

I wouldn't have dreamt of claiming the day as an opportunity to be self-indulgent and prevent them from going to a party they would have enjoyed.

If we'd planned to visit family that would be different, as it would on any other day we'd made plans before an invitation arrived.

OhCaptain · 29/02/2020 16:20

It’s pretty much a non-issue though. If you had a party from say 10.30-12.30 that still leaves an entire day to visit/eat out/whatever!

Uraflutteringcunt · 29/02/2020 16:39

I am also out all day. Visit my grandmother in the morning, she is housebound and therefore can’t come to any evening meal. Then my mother in laws for lunch and then it’s a meal with my mum and family. Some people will be at church.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 29/02/2020 16:43

I don't stop my child having a social life to be selfish, I like to treat my mum on mother's day by taking her out somewhere and DS comes as well. My mum raised me on her own and she deserves to be treated on mother's day, she really appreciates it. DS goes to parties basically every other weekend, so one day of the year I want to make it about my mum.

AlmaMartyr · 29/02/2020 16:54

No, I wouldn't. My kids like to plan a family day out, and I like to make time to see my mum. It's very much a family day for us.

Xmasbaby11 · 29/02/2020 16:58

Wouldn't bother me. I have loads of family time with my dc on a regular basis. No problem to let dc go to a party and there's still time in the day if we want to something together.

MrsApplepants · 29/02/2020 17:15

Mother’s Day is the same sort of thing as Valentine’s Day for us - commercialised load of rubbish. I can take my mother flowers or for lunch any day. So no, wouldn’t stop me taking my child to a party.

mumysgirls · 29/02/2020 17:19

Yes, we are going to one and as far as I can tell most of the class are.

GrumpyHoonMain · 29/02/2020 17:21

No

CottonSock · 29/02/2020 17:23

Yes and have accepted in past. The host gave out a nice choc to each mum which was nice.

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 29/02/2020 17:41

My DS was invited to a party on Mother’s Day but the mum didn’t realise until someone pointed it out as most people thought it was the last Sunday in March

She changed it as soon as she could and sent out a WhatsApp message

Perhaps you could decline saying it’s mother’s day and maybe it may get rearranged if many decline.

itsgettingweird · 29/02/2020 20:40

I think it depends on how you view Mother's Day.

I do all the things people do on Mother's Day throughout the whole 52 weeks of the year.

I don't need a day named Mother's Day to do it.

Some people will reserve it because they are religious and go to church. It's always the fourth Sunday after lent starts to help you,plan years in advance and why it changes each year!

To most and the high streets a commercial festival!