First dates - guy with 10 DC paying the bill

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Did anyone see?

I would always split the bill. The guy came across really well. His date was awful. No offer to pay or split the bill. Then snarky comments about not having dinner money for the DC and to give them beans in toast to mange his budget deficit.

We cheered when he said no to a second date. I hope they bring him back on and he meets someone nice.

His date did not come across well.
Her company was not sparkling.
What a cah.

But the TV company pays for dinner surely? This sounds made up/staged. The channel four show?

Yes, my eyebrows were raised when there was no offer to split the bill, but thinking about it it was a crap date for her. All they talked about was him and his kids. I would have left once the 'ive got 10 kids' was mentioned, but perhaps they're not allowed to under the terms of being on the show. She should have paid half though.

He seemed like a nice hardworking family guy. Totally mis matched by the producers. His face told it all when the bill arrived, & she didn’t offer to go halves. I felt so sorry for him.

When was this episode on. I’m gonna watch it.

She was a cow

I could be wrong but think the tv show pays a contribution towards the meal? But not enough to cover (esp when you add another courses and cocktails!)

But the TV company pays for dinner surely? This sounds made up/staged. The channel four show?

No, they pay a tiny amount, I think it’s £25, towards each diners bill then they decide how to cover the rest between them like you normally would on a date.

That guy in the link was vile , the one who left was so much nicer than the one that stayed . He was gross and the other ones personality was way better !!
I felt sorry for ten kids man too , she said she felt bad but didn't offer to pay !

She should have insisted to pay half, especially as she had no romantic feelings for him and knew he was raising 6 of the kids himself.
She looked very bad.

They were definitely mismatched. Not paying her part of the bill was bad enough. Mocking him for treating her was awful. Not a nice women.

Single parents, even those with ten DC, are allowed to have a social life. Dating might hopefully lead to a long term relationship. That doesn't mean he was looking for a mother to raise his DC for him.

I didnt say they wernt. But the problem is childcare is still seen as womens work. Look at the praise hes getting on here and elsewhere. It wouldnt be the same if it was the woman with 10 kids.

Dreadful, dreadful woman. She appeared to take great delight in not paying. The jokes about how he would feed his family was just ugly.

He was resentful of paying. Why not just suggest splitting the bill instead of making that MRA-sounding "women want equal rights except when..." statement.

Not sure how the producers matched them at all. Unless they presented differently on their questionnaires.

Awkward.

It was really odd. I couldn't understand why she didn't offer to go halves. But equally why he didn't say "Ok with going halves?" It has been done before on the show and in the real world. It was more bizarre still that she mentioned feeling bad in the post-dinner interview but still didn't cough up her share.

He annoyed me when he commented that you'd think in this day and age with women wanting equality they'd split a bill because I also think that in this day and age a guy should be well able to suggest splitting the bill.

It was an odd episode. I ended up with loads of unanswered questions about him. How has he ended up with 10 kids by an ex who was playing around for over a year and a marriage over 4 years but he has a 5 year old child? I don't know why but I imagine you'd only have that many kids if you were in a really solid relationship. How many kids are still at home? I couldn't fathom what he was looking for. His headspace and time seem to be 110% filled with his kids.

It isn't the first time a date has looked at the bill and been really uncomfortable. I really dislike the fact that people are being put in that situation when they'd never choose a restaurant like that otherwise. Mind you he was drinking cocktails which (in my world anyway) is a massive extravagance.

My fave was the gay girl last year who was SO full on, scaring the shit out of her date, forcing her to kiss her before she went off to the loo, loads of innuendo, and even when the poor girl declined another date she was still man handling her on the way out

Helena that's absolute rubbish. I admire anyone who steps in to raise their DC alone. My mum raised 4 of us singlehandedly without any support from our dad. She was immensely proud of the little she had. She refused to let my brother go into factory work and bring money into the home and worked her arse off to make sure he went to uni, he was the first person in our family to graduate. She did the same for all of us, having known what it was like to be refused further education just because she was female.

To mock anyone's financial situation and knowingly do something to make it worse then laugh about it is abhorrent behaviour.

I thought he should have asked her outright, especially if he was going to make a snarky content afterwards! But she was very rude not to offer to pay half, especially when she had no intention of another date (i.e. where they might take turns)

If they're given money towards the meal by Channel 4, then a refusal to pay makes it even worse, doesn't it?