Long time lurker here, I’m not really expecting much for this thread, I suppose I just need somewhere to write down the bollox that’s going on.
Firstly I’d just like to say I’m normally a rather chilled out woman. I’m aware the rant is probably minor and I should count my blessings that worse things aren’t going on.
I’m a first time mum to a lovely 4 week old baby, along side that dealing with loosing my lovely dad three day’s after the baby was born, dealing with moving house and also supporting my mum.
So a couple of things currently pissing me off again they probably seem rather minor.
Is it me or do MIL become 100 times more annoying once you have a child. Brief example of a couple of comments made by her recently. I’m very lucky that DP pulls her up on things each time, to which she then gets embarrassed about and then will try to over compensate.
Example 1- Told MIL that I’ve signed baby up for swimming, her comment was ‘You do know she’s not a doll?’ ... I know WTF the comment don’t even make sense.
Example 2- ‘You need to dress baby in more frills, she looks like a boy’ - most of baby’s outfits are Next & Zara I’m a rather quirky dresser myself, however dress baby rather normally I don’t do certain styles such as things like bright pink, Unicorns and headbands & bows it just ain’t A bit of me.
Example 3- Newborn photoshoot I sent some pictures of the shoot while it was happening, then once professional photos came through I sent the professional ones. Her comment to DP was ‘How many photoshoots does that baby need’ of course DP corrected her.
Next thing to add to the shit list. After two weeks huge rash has appeared all over baby’s face, neck, chest and behind ears. The rash is pure red raw, spotty, dry and just not nice to look at bless her. Was first told it was heat rash, second doctor unsure. Baby not in pain and yes could be worse, but when you want to show a newborn off it’s not ideal and again just another thing to add to the list not knowing what is best for your baby. I’m experiencing pure mum guilt.
Not forgetting the HV team who are giving me the run round. Cancelled first appointment in advance due to fathers death and just wanting some time. Yet still turned up, and yes I turned them away. Called to rebook to be told they had booked another appointment ( which I had no details of) good job I phoned as they where due to come on day of dads funeral. Then receiving two different appointment letters for different dates, to then things not being logged on the system having to go through everything again. Honestly give me a flipping break!
I’m thankful I have a wonderful DP who is everything a parent should be. I’m aware I’m struggling at the moment trying to grieve for my father & being a new mum isn’t ideal, I’m trying to balance out what emotions come from what as there rather mixed up at the moment.
This rant quite possibly don’t make sense, and may seem petty but you know when things just piss you off. Maybe I’m just being a sensitive sally, but things just feel very on top at the moment regardless how small.