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Teen with ASD. First heartbreak

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LennyPugGoat · 27/02/2020 21:54

DD is 16. Her diagnosis is important to me in this situation because she is so very black and white with very set in her way and ideas of right and wrong (this can be a Good thing as well as not so good I’m aware of that and working with her)

She had her first boyfriend for 5 months and yesterday she found out he has cheated on her - he left his snap maps on and lied about where he was.
She threw his valentines roses across the back lawn and his hoody in the bin, she hasn’t said much at all apart from she has blocked him on social media

She has told me all about it and accepted some comfort - very rare to accept affection and my heart is breaking for her, she is so down and closed off, not eating, tearful.

I sent a message to her and her sisters inviting them for a girls night in with mum tomorrow night free choice of snacks, takeaway and film etc she read it but hasn’t replied and has just gone out to walk the dog.

I know I sound pathetic and I’m probably over thinking and we all remember our first heartbreak ASD aside.

Just need somewhere to write it down, if I could take on her pain I would do it in a heart beat.

I’m going to have to stand aside and let her work through it aren’t I?

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LennyPugGoat · 28/02/2020 00:13

Night night

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Ardmac1 · 28/02/2020 00:19

Oh OP, I couldn’t read and run. You sound like a very supportive mum. My DS (14)’s first girlfriend has just broken up with him. Very short-lived but he was quite down. All we can do is be there for them. I think your idea of a girls’ night is lovely.

AlunWynsKnee · 28/02/2020 00:24

Oh @LennyPugGoat I dread this happening. Dd is such a loyal, kind person and she throws her lot in with people. She doesn't get transient stuff at all.
It sounds like you have it covered though. I hope she copes.

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 28/02/2020 00:33

DD(24) has ASD type traits and is very black and white with relationships.

On the plus side, I have little fear of her tolerating a wrong ‘un. But yeah, she’s not very forgiving; if a guy crosses a line he’s dead to her, no coming back from it. This actually means she bounces back ok. Sort of goes with the, “Well he wasn’t who I thought he was so I’m better off without him,” train of thought. Quite logical.

LennyPugGoat · 28/02/2020 09:00

That’s very reassuring Tinkly and also very true about the logical side of things.

Maybe she will bounce back better than I did when I was 16!

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