Or really I mean what happens afterwards? DH & I have been thrashing some stuff out about it all today. I’m very much one for talking about it afterwards ( DH will refer to that as “ post morteming”) whereas he will apologise if it’s him in the wrong but not want to go over & over what happened & why. Last night as well as apologising he did say he would try not to be like it again. Maybe it’s a male/female thing? I told him that if we don’t discuss it then I feel like my feelings don’t matter & he said of course they do. We even disagreed on how often we argue! I said that most of our fallings out include DD & that apart from last night, I couldn’t remember the last time the two of us had argued with her not involved.