First miscarriage- to wait or not !

[Cgmk93]

Hi.
Have just experienced my first pregnancy and first miscarriage at what should have been 11 weeks, had some tiny bits of spotting twice and then started bleeding at the weekend completely randomly- saw the ooh gp and gynae doctor for some examinations but couldn’t get a scan till Tuesday (from Sunday) by Monday night the bleeding was much worse and I could feel my uterus contracting so I just knew it would be bad news. As expected there was no heartbeat on the scan on Tuesday morning- had to have medical management as despite the nurses thinking it would happen naturally quickly it hadn’t yet whilst saying at Hospital.
Didn’t realise how horrible the experience would be and how much was involved- feeling sad and angry as have also received an email from work saying they have found an anaesthetic leak (I’m a vet nurse) yesterday and this is something know to cause a risk to pregnancy after I had been working till 9pm last week. I know it can never been proved But we had a private scan at 8 weeks and everything was fine - heartbeat was strong.

Anyway- the nurse said on discharge they don’t recommend waiting or not to try and conceive after miscarriage as there’s no statistics for either to show if it helps or not- just wondering what people would suggest- whether in reality it is better to wait for a period or a few periods!

So sorry to hear you've experienced this. After I'd had a couple I got involved with the Miscarriage Association and I do recall the advice then being that there's no benefit from waiting, whereas previously the advice was to wait until you'd had a period, but this was to make the subsequent pregnancy easier to date. Fingers crossed you soon become pregnant again and have your baby. In the meantime, be gentle on yourself. X

It’s totally down to how you feel emotionally and when you feel ready. When I had my mc (I had surgical management at 11 weeks though baby had stopped developing much earlier), I needed a month off. I traveled a bit (went away for a weekend alone, which was lovely) and we had a long haul family holiday planned.

But after my first period came, I felt much stronger and definitely ready to try again. I got pregnant right away, about 6 weeks after my d&c. All fine.

I was in a good place emotionally by then and you are supposedly quite fertile after any pregnancy (whether it ends in mc or birth). If I hadn’t felt ready though, I would have given it some more time.

I don’t think there is any evidence that waiting is better, unless there is a known medical cause that needs to be treated first. So it’s really just how you feel. There’s no reason to rush though if you feel you need more time.

I couldn't bring myself to wait after my first miscarriage.

I knew I was ovulating and DH and I needed some closeness anyway and it felt stupid to wear a condom.

We conceived and that pregnancy was fine.

I think the advice is to wait for emotional healing more than anything else. If you feel up for it then go for it.

So sorry for your loss - until you have one yourself you don't realise how horribly common they are.

I had a MC and then ectopic with 4 months, tube removed in August. I went on to have one period, then conceived in late Sept, DD born the following July. It helped me to move on, we didn't DTD following tube removal but that was due to pain from the op, generally feeling a bit shitty etc. Take it one step at a time OP, just be gentle with yourself

The advice I got in Switzerland was to wait 3 months to allow my body to recover.

The advice I received is to wait until you have had one period. This was primarily to help with dating if you do get pregnant again immediately.

Sorry for you loss OP that was me at Christmas time , I was 9 weeks. I wasn’t told any time frame to wait, I got pregnant pretty soon after and have just had another miscarriage. I’m now in two minds what to do.

Thanks everyone!
I know it’s horribly common but wasnt expecting how much was involved with the whole process- I have been so worried the whole way through I think my body knew it wasn’t gonna work out.

I think we’ll probably wait a few months anyway but just wondered about everyone’s experiences. So sorry to everyone who has had to go through this!!!