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Up sticks

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MamaLela · 26/02/2020 23:45

Has anyone just ever upped sticks and moved?

I've always loved my hometown and being close to my family etc, but recently my mental health is just not great for a number of reasons. However, as a single parent who works shifts, I need my mum nearby for childcare, which is why I haven't done it already

Firstly, I was in a controlling relationship with someone who lives round the corner. He has continued to hassle me in the 2 years since our break up and I live in fear of bumping into him. Our children attend the same school etc. Ever since then my mental health has gone downhill.

Secondly, house prices are so expensive because we are a popular suburb to a major city. I don't NEED to be here, because I am a nurse so I can work wherever there's a hospital/community. Some of the areas I'm looking at I could live in 3 bed semi for cheaper than my current 2 bed terrace.

Thirdly, I love being rural or near the coast. I have a little dog who needs so much walking and the local park and a nearby field is just getting dull.

My DD is in reception. If I wait around much longer, she will likely be more solid in her school and moving her will be so difficult. But secondary schools round here are utter rubbish.

Thing is though, I'm terrified I would be lonely doing it by myself. I can sort out practicalities (ie changing to a more child friendly side of nursing ie health visiting) but what if I uproot my daughter, sell my house etc and hate not having family nearby? I wouldn't be too far, no more than an hour, and I have some loose connections in the areas I'm considering but not enough to know if I can count on them. I had honestly been hoping to meet someone and do it with them, but it's just not happened and time is running out.

Opinions please!

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FlibbertyGiblets · 26/02/2020 23:56

Would your mum be up for moving, too?

MamaLela · 27/02/2020 00:04

Not currently no, they do want to go more rural when they retire but they're currently both still working in the city nearby, so it's not on their agenda for a while yet.

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HeddaGarbled · 27/02/2020 00:08

An hour isn’t that far away. I’m an hour away from my mum and drive over to hers at least once a week, more if she needs me.

Does your mum drive? Would she be willing to drive an hour at short notice in a childcare emergency? If not, you will need to find more local back-up.

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