My 10 month little boy no longer sleeps in his cot

[Dantay1991]

I’m looking for any sort of advice or even if anyone is in the same boat as me...
So my little boy went into his own room at 6 months. Everything was fine, night feeds as normal With him joining my husband and I in our bed every morning at around 4-5am for the rest of his snooze. But in the last week or two he just refuses to sleep in his own cot. He falls asleep on me like always after a cuddle and his milk. But as soon as I lay him in his cot he wakes up and cries. As soon as I pick him up he’s back asleep! He sleeps from 7.30pm-9.30pm in his cot and is absolutely fine. We’ve even tried turning the cot length ways so it’s the same way as our bed but won’t have any of it.

Is this normal behaviour? He’s still teething but I don’t know if that’s a factor or not. Anyone else experiment or has previously experienced this? Is it a faze? I’m not going to lie, it’s lovely waking up next to him but I just don’t want him to rely on our bed or my husband and I to fall asleep.

I really don’t want to try the ‘controlled crying’ technique either.

Sorry for the long speech, but any feedback or relation to this would be admired :D

Thanks everyone
Xx

Ok so that was meant to say has anyone else experienced this...definitely not experiment 🙈

Ah the 10 month sleep regression.... It's quite 'normal' absolutely had it with mine- have you seen the wonder weeks app about the 'leaps'?

Sorry not meaning that flippantly! We ended up 'side car-ing' the cot to our bed,a bit like a next to me crib?

Neither of mine loved cots! My 10 month old starts off the night in his cot and then I bring him in with me when I go to bed, otherwise I'm just waiting to be woken up.

3 yo now pretty good. Sleeps in his own bed for a decent chunk of the night. If he wakes DH co sleeps with him in the spare room.

To be honest if you're getting sleep I'd just go with it. If it's a problem that's different but it sounds as though it works ok for you but you're worried about the whole rod/back thing? If that's the case I wouldn't worry too much, they change so much in such a short space of time. I figure there will be plenty of years where they don't want to snuggle in bed, I'm trying to make the most of it!

He's also heading for the age of separation anxiety so it may also be something to do with that.

He falls asleep on me like always after a cuddle and his milk

you are teaching him, this is how we go to sleep on Mummy, so when he wakes in his cot he feels he needs to fall asleep on you again. It is the equivalent of you falling asleep in your bed and waking up in the garden. You know you would go back to your bed, not stay in the garden.

Up to you how you want to progress from here. I have done both ways, I did pick up, put down method, so when they stop crying you lay them back down in their cot (Ds1) and I have also allowed a child to sleep on me and then do co-sleeping but he was my second child and very poorly. I never let them cry it out. I was there, just not necessarily as a sleeping cushion for Ds1.

I made sure mine were always awake after their feed and before going in their cots. We always left the room after tucking them in too, it worked, they've always been good at getting off to sleep by themselves.

Thanks everyone for your comments, in the nicest way possible it makes me feel better knowing it's quite nudnik and that other people are experiencing this too. He slept in our bed for the full birth last night and seemed to get a good sleep.

I'm considering getting the bedside cot back out and putting him in our room for a while see how he gets on. Otherwise he can just stay in our bed as we all got some sleep haha!

Thanks again everyone xx

Stupid predictive text! Meant to say normal !

I think my youngest was 11 months when we put her in a bed (with sides) but the two eldest were 9 and 10 months. Mainly because they were strong little things, were walking and most nights would climb out of their cot and go for a wander! Once they were in 'grown up beds' it took a couple of weeks but they definitely settled more quickly.