Hi Everyone. I'm new to this site. My story is crazy and I know I've made a lot of bad decisions so hopefully I can get some advice rather than judgements..lol I met this guy back in July 2019 and he was married. He was ending his relationship with his wife (supposably) he told me his marriage has been on the outs for a while and he tried to get divorced back in 2016 but it was too expensive and he tried to stick it out with for his 15 year old daughter. Well anyway, we met and fell in love and he moved in with me in August (right after he took his family on vacation). His wife wasnt happy about it (ofcourse) and gave us a hard time and then in September we got a place together. We ended up finding out I was pregnant (currently 6 months pregnant) and he filed for divorce in November. Things were okay in the beginning but once we moved into our old place he started getting jealous over everything. I deleted all my social media, changed my phone number, limited contact with my sons father, went to work came home and was with him. There has been many times he's tried to end the relationship because of insecurities he's had....for example: we went out for my coworkers going away party and all my coworkers are men whom I've been working with for about 6 years. I am friends with all of them (and their wives) and he said I was being way too flirty with my coworkers because I went to the bar area with them while he was talking to my other coworkers. Also, I had a friend over with her boyfriend one night and they are younger than me (I'm 32, my boyfriend is 43...and my friend is 23 and her boyfriend is the same age) I don't like younger guys-especially my friends boyfriends. Anyway, my friends boyfriends grew his hair out really long so I was "playing with his hair" - as my boyfriend likes to say and my boyfriend got really mad saying I was flirting and I am disgusting. These issues have come up with every argument we've had over the course of months. He gets mad if I bring my phone in the bath with me...He got mad that I said I love a (male) tv characters character. He got mad that I am nice to my son's father. Now his situation is: hes 43 and has a 15 year old daughter. He filed for divorce and has been giving his wife all his money (about $3500per month-and him staying with $1000). I pay our gas & electric and cable and food and he just gives me half of the rent. He goes over to his house everyday to hang out with his daughter. (so he is essentially with his wife I'm sure too). Recently, he started recording me. He took an old I-phone and put it under the dresser and listened to my conversation with my mom....I'm pregnant and have been under an enormous amount of stress so I talk to my mom on a daily basis she is like my best friend, I cry to her, vent to her, and just talk to her. Well he heard me talking about him (complaining about something) and he thinks all I do is talk shit about him. So then I was on my way to work with my coworker who is also my friend, and I go in my purse and there is a recorder at the bottom of my purse recording. My friend and I were talking about some guy shes dating and how he has a big "package" and I said "i know its perfect literally" not even thinking my comment through or thinking it was a big deal..(I've never seen it by the way - just said that because of all the stories she's told me) anyway, he heard the recording and lost it. He packed all his stuff, and went and slept at his wife's house. That night he expressed to his daughter he will be moving back into that house and making their back room his bedroom. His daughter was happy but then the next day he brought all his stuff back and moved back in with me. The last 2 weeks have been up and down, he's been telling me he loves me and wants to be with me, but then will say I'm disugsting and a whore because of what I said on the recording. He has been going back and forth. Two nights ago he told me he is thinking of moving back into his house because he wants his daughter to be happy. This completely destroyed me. I am currently 6 months pregnant with his baby...he barely acknowledges the fact that he has a son coming into this world. He said he wants to be with me but he feels he has to choose between me or his daughter. I'm confused I'm hurt I'm just very very depressed over this and I know I set myself up for this by dating a married man..I don't know what I was thinking bringing a baby into this situation, and I feel for my child and unborn child! He is saying he will stay another month or 2 but then he will be moving back home. I don't know where to go from here...So last night he put another recorder in the apartment we share and he heard me talking to my mom about him. I was saying how he has no heart, how he is insane for recording me, saying I feel bad for his wife, saying my son's father atleast had a heart. Well he heard that recording and flipped out again, saying all I do is talk bad about him...and I tried to explain I am ANGRY and very sad over all of this and need to vent to my family..he doesn't understand and said he is taking his stuff and leaving. Any advice would be greatly appreciated