I’m 36, so time is not really on my side. DH is neutral, happy either way. DC1 and DC2 are 19m apart. Very, very close, despite the bickering. Have much of the same interests and likes. Tough when they were little, but much more independent now they are age 7 and 5.5 Due to a few financial reasons we’ve never been able to consider having DC3 until now.
Although I thought we were done (mainly due to other people telling me I was, rather than me really ever feeling that I was), we are in a slightly better financial position. We could stretch to having DC3 and still pay our mortgage, bills, odd days out, ok holiday (maybe not as £££ as if we stuck with 2).
I’m really torn as I was DC3 with a big age gap and fought like cat and dog with my older brother (6 years older), but oddly never really argued with my sister (9 years older). I worry that our potential DC3 would have a similar experience of always being the one left out, or was it just the dynamics in my family?
Should I just stick with the 2 DC I have and have more time and money for them? Or do I stretch a little to have a DC3?
If I could afford a DC4 too, I’d have a DC3 in a heart beat.
Just interested in people’s thoughts/opinions/experiences. I know ultimately it’s up to me and DH to decide.