Talk about contraceptives.. Need help, due to weight issues and baby blues .. For semi short term

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We've just had our 2nd baby together plus have 1 each
Previous ttc issues which needed treatment with our 2 Yr old.
Then out of the blue last Yr I fell pregnant.. Unfortunately I MC.
Then 4 weeks later I found out I was expecting again.
So surprised as we both had ' issues'
We wernt taking precautions as we wanted another so there was always that hope until we'd saved enough.

Anyway.. We're done! No more 😂

DH has agreed a vasectomy however in the meantime we need to be careful.
Condoms irritate me so that's a no no. And we've tried loads.

I'm 5w PP and have my 6 week check next week so need to get maybe the pill or something?
This terrifies me.. For many reasons. 1 I've never used any form contraceptives ( used to tolerate condoms but can't since the 2 Yr old) no idea why.

1. Because I have huge hang ups about gaining weight. I'm 11.4 and 5ft4 5w PP. And although it's now a size 12 to 14 (14 being a bit big) I feel a whale.. ( previous issues with starving myself if I felt fat)

And I'm still struggling with low mood since baby which I'm trying to avoid mediation as spent years on it previously before meeting dh.. He knows of the history on them but I feel I can't open up about how I feel now. Which I know is really silly and there's no reason why I can't but I just can't I'd makes sense.

So need soemthing that won't ineerfere with weight or mood ideally. And I know each person is different but I feel I need to be in the know about different types.

The wait for dh vasectomy would be around 6m as hell need to use holiday allowance as sick pay crap andbh3 has a very manual job.

Hope makes sense my heads in a spin

Patch?

Remember that you’ll still need contraception for potentially 4-6 months after the actual vasectomy. He needs one or two clear semen samples, usually about 3-6 months after the procedure. So you could be looking at contraception for a year.

Are you breastfeeding? That limits your options.

Have a think about a copper coil - no affect on weight and won’t affect your mood as it’s hormone free.

Didn't know that existed.. I think I need to do a bit of research

Have a look at the nhs contraception web pages for some advice re different options. Or discuss it with the GP when you go for your postnatal check.

In the meantime don’t have unprotected sex as you are potentially fertile 21 days after delivery!

I've been through all options. My preference would be the patch but I'm not generally allowed combined contraception which rules a lot out.
I had the mini pill which cause me horrific mood swings and messed up my cycle.
The injection is guaranteed weight gain so I won't entertain that and given it's a high dose of progesterone, the nurse recommended I didn't have it due to side effects.
The coil gets pushed a lot but I don't want that.
I have the implant which is playing havoc with my cycle and have been temporarily put on the pill as well to try and settle the bleeding.
DP is also getting the snip so I know this is temporary for me.
In your situation I'd try the pill or the patch.

The injection isn’t guaranteed weight gain, but it is possible and of course the downside is if you do have weight gain you have to wait for the injection to be metabolised to lose the side effects.

Any hormonal method has the potential to affect mood and appetite, so bets avoided for the OP if those are dealbreakers for her.