He's 36. He's a very clever guy and runs his own very successful business.
But if it's not work he has no interest. He finds it hard to plan anything, take time off or organize anything that doesn't relate to work.
He can be very intense, so socially that can make things difficult for him. He doesn't have any friends as such. He says me and the children are all he needs,but I'm exhausted. I can't keep up his pace of interest in work and making money. I just want to talk about day to day stuff sometimes. The only thing which relaxes him is alcohol or occasionally cannabis. Both make him even more intense, and he can't function the following day.
He is attending the assessment because he would like to know why he cannot relax and switch off, and because he thinks if they tell him how to control his constant over thinking he could become even more successful if he could focus more.
When he does relax he's lovely, and very funny and really kind. When he can't he can be snappy, rude and self absorbed. He genuinely doesn't see things that need doing in the house. He pays for a cleaner to help with his side of things, but he can't for example go to the shop for milk without forgetting what I asked for. He looses stuff every day (clothes, keys, wallet, phone, etc) and this stresses him out terribly. He is not great with reading so lists/reminders are pointless.
I didn't mean this to be so long but there is so much to it and it's hard to talk to him about.