7 year old DS and bed wetting

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DS has never had a dry night. Most nights he has between 1-3 accidents. He wears a nighttime pull-up but often these leak.

Last Summer we tried getting rid of the pull-up for 10 days but it was horrendous- by the end of it we had no bed clothes left, were both exhausted and there was no improvement. So we went back to pull-ups.

I’ve tried limiting drinks, making him drink more throughout the day, waking him up at 11pm to go to the loo. Nothing works. Does anyone have any advice, is it time to see a doctor?

You are not alone my son is 7 in July and is exactly the same. Sorry I wish I had an answer too

My sons 7 in may and we had the first dry night with no pull up yesterday. I had been putting his pull up over a pair of pants for the last week and he was dry so we went for it. Prior to that he was wet every night I'm not sure if the pants underneath helped him psychologically but it seemed to

My son is 8 and still peeing the bed. He was referred to the school nurse by the doctor, she gave us the usual advice that hasn't worked so now we have to wait 3 months to see a different team.

If i was you i would get him seen by the doctor because the whole process can take awhile.

Have you tried the alarm?
It didn't work for us but it worked pretty much straight away for a friend.
My DS was wet every other night until he was 8 and a bit. Now, fine 99% (you watch, I'll have cursed that for tonight!) He really did grow out of it. A bit of mental maturity I think.
Do you have a routine? We find Late nights are triggers. Out of routine. If he goes to bed roughly same time , he's better.
You're absolutely not alone!

Ask your GP to refer you to the enuresis service. I think they see children after 5 if daytime issues and 7 if night time.

My DD is 8 and has had day and night time issues. Our enuresis nurse sees teenagers who've never had a dry night, so it's worth trying to deal with it now as things don't always click into place as you would expect.

It doesn't have to be the medication route, there are other things to try. We're about to try and tackle night after (hopefully) conquering the day!

Have a look at eric.org.uk for info, if you haven't already.

Our DS wasn't dry at night until he was 10. Our bodies produce a hormone that stops us from weeing in our sleep, and it can take up to the age of 12 for this to happen. It's a lot more common than you might think. We kept DS in pullups as no amount of waking him to wee, alarms, limiting drinks etc worked. Eventually he was referred to a specialist and was on Desmopressin (I think that's what it was called) and after about 9 months he was fully dry every night. Lots of info on this site

My son was 11. I would probably make an appointment to get a referral to see if anything can be done to help. With my son we just had to wait to grow out of it. I would recommend the washable bed protectors from age UK. They will save you having to change the whole bed if you decide to try no pull ups again, they go on top of the sheet and tuck under the mattress.

Highly recommend these washable bed protectors. They are very absorbent and save changing the whole bed. Much cheeper than disposables too.

www.ageukincontinence.co.uk/incontinence-shop/incontinence-bed-and-chair-protection/bed-pads/vivactive-washable-bed-pad-with-tuck-in-sides-2000ml-single.html

Layering on protector/towel/sheet, protector/towel/sheet in that order on the bed means that you can just strip the top wet layer and you have a dry one underneath ready to go. A second duvet in it's cover ready to go also helps with the bed changing.

I was a bedwetter until I was about that age. I was such a deep sleeper and I used to dream that I was getting up to go to the toilet, only to wake up from the dream wetting myself. Even now when I need to wake during the night and I'm sleeping unusually heavier than normal, the usual dream is that I need to wee and I'm in a nightclub or campsite where the toilets are utterly awful, covered in excrement, blocked or no doors on them or whatever - it's my subconscious making all the dream toilets disgusting to prevent me from going.
I think it happens to other people too so that's part of the problem with your son training him to remember that toilets are trick toilets in dreams might help out somewhat.

It's also worth getting a referral, at this stage everything is helpful.

sorry, *if that's part of the problem I mean.

I think it would be worth trying an alarm.

Thanks so much for the helpful advice and support, it’s good to know we’re not alone. I’ll look into the washable bed protectors, I’ve been using disposable and it costs a fortune!

I can’t recommend enough the bed alarm by ERIC. Dd was 7 and I was really worried about a school trip , she was so wet at night with never a single dry one. Lifting didn t work or restricting drinks etc. The alarm worked within a week, twas amazing! Seemed to make a connection between her brain and the feeling. She didn’t hear the alarm but I used to pelt in and wake her, I put a potty by the bed and she went in that. Layered up the bed but the alarm usually caught it so quickly it didn’t take much changing. Then she just became dry! It was amazing! A weeks disturbed sleep was all it took I think, with perhaps a couple mire accidents over the next few weeks but I kept alarm in for quite a while so no major drama there.

You have to get flannel sheets - lots of instructions. Also good to try now as sweat makes it go off! I think you put a towel over it as well. It was quite military precision but it was so effective. I’m not sure how old she’d have been otherwise as we weren’t even close!

We took DS to the GP who did some tests to rule out infection then referred to eneurisis clinic. They give general advice eg reducing liquids in the evening (but also increasing in the day time), not drinking dark coloured juice/ squash or fizzy drinks. We also had the lone of an alarm from them.

I think DS was about 7 at the time, he became dry a few months later and we'll never know whether the interventions helped or whether it was just his body maturing.

We tried the tablet which didnt work, then was given an alarm, which wasnt the best. It kept on coming loose, or randomly going off. But we decided to just keep on going without the alarm. What made a massive difference was changing his drinking habits through the day. He would bring back a almost full bottle of water in his lunchbox. So I sent him in with a bottle of water to keep on his desk, which he drinks from all the time. Weirdly, its helped. We ditched the alarm and went cold turkey. Its bloody hard and he had a week recently of 'bed wetting'- he's started to wet the bed but stopped, which is actually good because he's learning control, I guess.

Of course, this is just our experience.

I can sympathise, my daughter is nearly 10 and just about becoming dry at night. It’s just taken time with her, her father was also late to become dry at night and there is a genetic association. Dunelm Mill also do waterproof mattress protectors and a tip I picked up was to buy puppy pads as an extra waterproof layer instead of the dry nite bed mats to save money - Wilkos/home bargains do them cheap.