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Am i stupid to stay :(

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Comeinalready · 25/02/2020 13:49

So im married to a man whom i no longer love but still care for. However im slowly starting to resent and almost hate him. A few years ago ( when we should have divorced) we separated for about a year. We both met other people but later we reconciled. We also have a baby. This marriage however feels 'forced'. He's older than me therefore feels he can speak his mind and in the process hurting me. I do fairly well financially but often im reminded of my poor and 'common ' background and he threatens to 'send me back there'.Im also told almost monthly that im a bad mother simply because i believe in a bit of discipline, not by hitting my child but just by setting boundaries. He gives the child everything he wants. Am i stupid to stay with him? It doesn't help that he's sickly so i feel 'trapped'

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KMoKMo · 25/02/2020 13:54

You don’t say why you are staying with him? Does he have any redeeming qualities?

Is it for the sake of your child?
Children aren’t stupid and I can’t see why you’d want your child growing up in that environment.
Why did you reconcile?
Leave him and find happiness Flowers

Comeinalready · 25/02/2020 13:55

I guess the guilt keeps me here. He's 15 years older with a heart condition

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FeedMeChoc · 25/02/2020 13:55

Yes.

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KMoKMo · 25/02/2020 14:10

What was the situation when you reconciled then? Did he guilt trip you into it?
Personally I think life it too short to be unhappy and you sound miserable.
You can’t say that he does anything nice for you at all. So yes I’d leave. I’d want my child to have a happier upbringing than that and witness healthy relationships.

MrsJemimaDuck · 25/02/2020 16:23

It sounds like he’s cruel to you. Don’t waste your life. Leave.

RhymingRabbit3 · 25/02/2020 18:22

If guilt is your only reason to stay, dont stay.

VenusClapTrap · 25/02/2020 18:25

He doesn’t sound very nice. I wouldn’t want to live with someone like that. I’d leave.

VenusClapTrap · 25/02/2020 18:27

A friend of mine has stayed with a partner he doesn’t love for twenty years, due to guilt about his partner’s health condition. They are both miserable. What a waste of two lives.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 25/02/2020 18:27

Leave him. You're not happy and he sounds nasty.

Comeinalready · 26/02/2020 16:08

Thanks guys

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Shamazing · 26/02/2020 16:34

Get out now OP. Don't wait. At least give yourself a chance at a happy life.

billy1966 · 26/02/2020 17:24

Get out as quick as you can OP He sounds awful.

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