Need help- disappearing ex

[surlycurly]

I posted this here for traffic as I got no replies in lone parents.

So Mr self important had fucked off to Norway and won't tell me where he is (he is married to a Norwegian and has been for a year). He didn't tell the kids he was leaving and didn't say goodbye. He won't give us an address. He text me last night to tell me he's no longer going to pay maintenance because he is now unemployed (gave up his job). What can I do about his parental rights/ finding him? Any help would be gratefully received.

I’d say you have had a lucky escape, just concentrate on you and your kids

So you got together, had kids then he married and disappeared?

If he's working legally in Norway you should be able to google him and find his yearly income plus address. Try www.gulesider.no can you find him there? Usually residents here have to register with folkeregisteret and end up on guleside with full address and phone number. Check for his wife's name as well.

tag me if you need translation help OP.

Thanks for that- Had a search and can't find her. He's only just gone so he's not registered. He is not working as yet either. And it's easy enough to say get over it, but I need to know what I can do legally as I don't want this man having any say in my kids' lives any more. Never mind the massive amount of money a month I now have to find totally out the blue.

And for context we've been divorced for 7 yrs. his contact with our kids has diminished since meeting the Norwegian a few years ago. They got married last year and he was supposed to move then. He didn't and said he would when he eventually found a job. This was over a year ago. Obviously he got sick of waiting and has just gone. I never thought for a minute he'd just chuck his job and go. He's left unpaid debts and no forwarding address.

I'm afraid i dont know what is possible legally given Im in Norway myself but I definitely understand why you want to track him down OP. He will be forced to register in a few months. Keep the link and keep trying their names periodically.

Thank you- that's incredibly helpful.

You can’t take away his PR. Courts don’t even remove PR from murderers or rapists.

adressesok.posten.no/nb/persons/search

You can try the postal service as well OP. Just put the name in the search box :)

Wait until he is working then hit him with a reciprocal enforcement order.

www.nidirect.gov.uk/articles/reciprocal-enforcement-maintenance-orders-remos

PS The link is for Northern Ireland, but the concept is the same.

Anyone know what the implications are for things like passports/ my taking the kids abroad? If he's gone can I do what suits me? I've been wanting to get a job abroad myself but he's blocked it from happening previously. Can I do so now?

He can still return to the UK and contest that in court.

I’d seek good legal advice.

Oh - how did he block you?

He went to court to stop me taking them on holiday to the US (which failed may I add) so when I suggested moving before he told me he'd do it again. Started legal proceedings immediately. He was seeing them at that point an my then lawyer advised that I would not win should I pursue it further.