Children wont sleep

[Momto2boys1girl]

Hi everyone.

I am new to this as I am I dire need of advice!

So I have three children 6,3 and 2 and my youngest will not sleep!
She has always been a dream sleeper! Since birth. But we took her off the bottle about 3 months ago and ever since it has been a nightmare to get her to sleep, so my husband thought it would be a great idea to start sleeping with her until she falls asleep. I told him not to because it will get her into a bad habit but he couldn't stand seeing her upset! And now, we ARE paying the consequences! One of us sleeps with our son and the other sleeps with our daughter. And I feel that it is really affecting our family life. Me and hubby literally have no time together.

I have recently started just putting my daughter to bed and closing the stair gate and just giving tough love but she will not give in. She will cry and cry until we cant take no more.
We also have very thin walls and neighbor's can hear everything and I really do not want to start getting complaints about her crying.

Please and suggestions on what I can try is very much appreciated!

Not a parent but can’t you just leave her to cry until she falls asleep? I’ve never known anyone unable to eventually succumb to sleep when they needed it just because somebody else wasn’t there lying with them. Your partner needs to toughen up and stop giving in, imo. You should also stop sleeping with your (I assume) 3 year old.

And as for the neighbour, I would personally prefer a bit of crying heard through thin walls at the difficult age of them being 2 and 3 than endless crying and sleepless nights when they are 6 and 7 if I was your neighbour.

FWIW, I used to be a little shocked that my sister used to constantly continuously blast music loud downstairs after her children had gone to bed and said they would deal with it and go to sleep. It wouldn’t have been my method but said children are now very well-rested teenagers who would sleep through an earthquake and always go to their beds on time and without complaint and without their phones

Give her the bottle back? It's not really worth the battle

^^i should add, the music wasn’t loud purposely, just that it wasn’t turned down to accommodate the children after they went to bed. Even after seeing the effective results, I wouldn’t personally do it, but in that instance it has worked.