Struggling - if im not careful I'm going to drown

[TheoriginalLEM]

I'm letting life get on top of me. Everything feels too much right now. I read threads on here and I feel bad for whinging but i feel like everything is coming on top of me.

My mum is deteriorating and is clearly entering the hell that is dementia. She isa cantankerous old bitch but she is my mum. I watched this destroy my dad and now I have to do it again.

We are in financial shit again, i thought it was going to be ok but DP is self employed and lost all enthusiasm for work. He isn't lazy, he is my rock and is pretty much the sahm parent and holds me together, but life is breaking him to.

I am falling behind at work and college and like I'm going to fail at the last hurdle.

Never feel bad for reaching out for support. It’s not a race to the bottom and everyone needs support when things get tough.

Are you receiving mental health support? And is your DH?

Make sure you take whatever help you can with looking after your mum, there is nothing wrong with saying “I can’t do this I need help”

Look after yourself

Can you pause college for a while?

Thank you sirzy, my mum is currently undergoing assesment at home following a 6 week stay in hospital. I don't think they will allow her to stay home.

I do need mental health support. I'm going to try and get a GP appointment. I am on medication

Not an option to pause unfortunately, i am in my final year and it's part of/ essential for my job.

My boss is not understanding of mental health- calls it ' playing the mental health card.

I'm sorry to hear this, LEM, that's an awful lot to be having to deal with. I think a trip to the GP is a very good idea and just talking about all these pressures with somebody who is removed from the situation will really help.

One thing that I would certainly tell the GP is that you boss has a poor understanding of mental health issues and that you could do with some support as to how to best tackle that. I also think your husband could do with making his own appointment for himself too.

Many of us have periods where we feel as if we're going under and there's no shame in getting help from wherever we can.