CFckery or not?

[Hinchunup]

My adult children have been invited to their father's wedding. This is in location where they require to stay over a nd would normally stay at the dad's. Today he called our son who is 21 with mild learning difficulties to say 'I know I asked you to be best man but really it's only a witness thing, and are u OK to get your own accommodation as my place is full and you'd need to sleep on air bed? You need to pay for this. Son is full time student and receives no financial support from the fkr. Son agrees as he's nervous and wary of his dad and will not in any way confront him it ask for assistance. Feel angry about this but powerless as he is adult. Daughter 18 can stay but as she is now inviting her bf she also has to pay for digs. He is very able financially to cover this small cost but obvs decided not to. Just feeling angry!

I think it’s very mean that he hasn’t openEd his home to his own children to stay.

I wouldn’t have expected my parent to cover my costs at that age. They might have, but I wouldn’t have expected it all and I don’t think it’s that bad. If there was an air bed available but now your DD is bringing a +1, then that’s her problem no one else’s.

I totally would have expected my father to cover my costs for his wedding at that age and in those circumstances. Father is a gobshite.

Well he's certainly not father of the year, thats for sure. My Dad would have at least offered to help accommodate us elsewhere...no matter what age!

I would have expected him to prioritise space at his place for his dc over other guests, or pay for accommodation otherwise. I think most dc would still have a room at their parent's house at that age.

And did I understand right that he doesn't want his ds to now be best man?

I vote he's being a dickhead.

As a parent I would definitely prioritise my children at my wedding. Unless they were working etc, I would cover their accommodation costs if they couldn't stay with me.