Ex asking for my help to get new house

[UncommonUsername]

I have no idea where to post this, sorry if this is the wrong place.

I have two daughters with my ex, he has just had another baby with his wife. He lives in a two bed council flat and wants to move to a three bed council house, the problem is he only has our children two nights per week.

He's asked me to write a letter to the council telling them he has the kids three nights per week because according to him since he gets no child benefit or tax credits for the kids he has to have me vouch for him. I don't want to lie for him but I am worried that he'll start kicking off over it if I don't, I don't want to give him anything in writing to say he has the kids more than he does because surely he could use that to his advantage when it comes to the kids money?

He doesn't pay any child maintenance for them and never has and we haven't always gotten along since we split I just don't trust him to not try and mess things up for me.

I guess I'm asking what anyone else would do in my situation?

Tia.

Wow-what a horrid man.

Claim for maintenance for your kids-how dare he not provide for them. Do you really think any court in the land would award custody to a man who hasn’t paid maintenance and has been arrested for DV towards you?!

Try to communicate via email or text so you have a written record of his bullshit

Fuck that.

If he was asking to have the kids an extra night because he wanted his latest dd to build up more of a relationship I’d kind of get it. But he wants to have you say it to benefit him to no benefit to your dds!!

And then I read that he was violent, you’re afraid of him, he withheld your dds, and doesn’t pay maintenance??

Fuck this prick! In fact, fottfsofawygtfosm would be my response! Along with contacting child maintenance and having the fee waived due to violence and collect and pay so he can’t dick you around. (The maintenance bit is easy, and you can tell them you’ve been too afraid to contact before but now he’s trying to bully you into fraud to benefit him and you’ve decided enough is enough!)

Best part is, by explaining it all to maintenance lot, the calls are recorded so if he ever fakes a letter from you, you have insurance against the claim.

Fuck me, I’ve heard of some wankers in my time but this prick takes the motherfucking biscuit tin.

Well he has absolutely no chance of getting 'custody' - if he starts using threats against you and starts using the children as weapons as soon as you apply to CMS, he's likely to be told that he won't be able to have them at all (and will therefore be obliged to pay even more).

Honestly, he's already got a record for violence and he thinks that applying to court to take the children off the primary carer he's been perfectly happy with so far the second she applies for the maintenance he owes, is going to make him look anything but vindictive and an absolutely awful father?

Go to CMS!

Go through CMS instead and record every threat.