Daughters Sleepover Party Help Please

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Hi,

Just looking for abit of advice please. Currently living at my mums with 2 dc due to separation. Daughter wants a sleepover for her birthday party she's wanted one for years and now she is going to be 9. I tried to say wait until next year until we have our own house but I'm sick of having to put everything on hold for her it's been rubbish as it is and she's desperate for one.

Now when inviting friends from school how can I explain to the parents that it will be held at my mums house, I will be there, my mum and the house is safe etc Im just worried that quite rightly some parents may feel uneasy as it is out of the local school village and not at my personal house it might sound all weird? Obviously I wouldn't go into details about why I'm there, I originally moved out of my own house with dh to save for a house deposit at his parents so I could still say that's the reason it's being held at my mums.

Is there any reassuring way I can invite the children or am I over thinking this?

Thanks

I think you’re over thinking this. It’s not THAT unusual to live with extended family. My sister’s family live at my mum’s. Just invite as normal. I hope she has a lovely party

This is not a big deal at all; you're overthinking this.

I am divorced, living 15-20min out of the school village, had a sleepover party for dd last year, It is all fine no one blinked an eye.

Really it will be fine

Oh ok thanks! I don't know I suppose I get worried that they will reject our invite due to not knowing who's house it is etc and I would feel so bad, I'd hate mums to whisper and be concerned that they don't know where they are sending their child or who else lives there etc

Either they won't know and assume it's just your house or they will think you live with your mum (or her with you) which is not weird and is actually the situation! I wouldn't care if you invited my dd to your mims, it's totally fine.

Kids absolutely love sleepovers even if we don't think they seem vaguely exciting! It's one of life's great mysteries.

It’s your house and your DDs house 🙂 no one strange lives there. Do you know the parents of the children she wants to invite? Have they been round before? If they’re not comfortable it would be because they don’t know you well. 9 is still on the young side for a sleepover party.

Thanks @SavoyCabbage and @buffalocauliflower I suppose I don't need to go into major detail of my whole life story, I just felt like I had to explain why the address would not be in the same village of where most of her friends live or that I was being dishonest not stating its at my mums house. I mean I don't massively know the parents too closely but there's one close friend who's mum knew about us moving etc and the whole situation do I felt like I had to explain to her why I'm at yet another address! I will just invite and hope they don't question why we live out the village I have a while yet

I would just include something like "we are living with my mum for the short term, therefore the address for the sleepover is XXX". Then they know where it is and that it's your mums house and if they have other questions they can ask

I always give my address and my phone number on invitations that I make on the computer so people know where their kids are.

Yes I will defo put my number and address and update them with photos. Thankyou for the reassurance everyone! Lets hope the parents are too ok with it

You’re overthinking it. DD goes to school in a neighbouring village and many/most in her class don’t like in the village the school is in. If she was invited to a sleepover and there was a grandmother there I would assume it was to either help with keeping an eye on things or that they lived together (either mum in the grandmother’s house or the grandmother in the mum’s house) which wouldn’t seem odd at all to me. As long as the house and adults were safe and friendly, that would be the important bit.

I wouldn’t even mention your mum tbh...your the parent your be present 🤷🏻‍♀️

People don’t normally put on invites I live with my DH, older DS, 3 younger dc etc so why would you say it’s your mums house on invites

Just put your address & contact number on invites, that’s all the needed info why mention your mum

Yeah I just felt like I had to explain in person and make the parents aware of the situation that it isn't actually my home as we are here temporarily and then I thought omg they might think I'm some problem family as why wouldn't I have my own place haha I know I'm thinking all sorts! I will just say maybe so n so is having a sleepover party soon just a heads up and invites will follow shortly

Knowing my own dd, i fully expect all her friends already know you have moved / not living with dad, and live with grandma. Kids tell each other this sort of stuff. So it won't be any great surprise.

just put the address and contact no. on the invite. No need for any explanation .

Yes I am probably just being paranoid that the parents wouldn't feel comfortable going to a house that's not exactly mine but I will just keep it basic. Thanks