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Mammyloveswine · 22/02/2020 16:00

So I'm a teacher and had a very very busy half term, I was asked to step up and cover a colleague. Anyway it was extremely stressful and half term couldn't come soon enough.

However my husband never booked any leave, he never does in the holidays as I'm off. In fact he actually booked overtime. His argument is that I'm off when the kids are so he can "save" his leave for when he wants time off.

Which inevitably is term time when the kids are in school/nursery and I'm at work. (He had a week off after I went back at Christmas, having only had Christmas Day and Boxing Day off).

As it is I've been up several mornings at 5am doing school work or sitting up until gone midnight as I've had no other time to do it.

Let alone the constant entertaining the kids, cooking, cleaning, bath and bed (he doesn't get home until after the kids are in bed).

I'm exhausted and at the end of my tether. I genuinely feel at breaking point. He claims he "never gets a break" because he will get up at 6 with the youngest so I can shower and get ready for work. Yet when I finish work I'm the one dealing with pick ups and stuff, he finishes work and can just go to the gym, out for a drink etc as the kids will be in bed...

None of my family are interested in helping out or taking the kids for even a morning or afternoon, even when I have broke down in front of them and my friends all have young children of their own.

I just feel like I never get a proper break!

I know that I won't be the only one, and in fact I've got it easier than many but I'm just so fed up!

I have spoken to him and he'll "offer" to have the kids when he is off but this is usually last minute and I've often made plans.

Sorry I'm just needing a rant!

I've got a bottle of wine in the fridge and bought myself something nice from m&s to have when the kids go to bed!

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Mammyloveswine · 22/02/2020 16:06

Just realised this makes him sound useless, he does do the washing up every day and all the laundry!

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Bananasandchocolatecustard · 22/02/2020 16:35

He is not doing enough. Dishes and laundry are not enough. They are his children too. You should share child care equally. Find out how much holiday child care would cost, that’s how much you are saving the family budget.
If he won’t do his share book your children into holiday child care and relax. (Single parent teacher here).

Mammyloveswine · 22/02/2020 17:24

Thank you @baanasandcustard

It would just feel like a massive waste.

I have asked him to just book one day off in the holidays and he claims not to know when the holidays are Angry I told him that the holidays are on the fridge as the children and I have the same holidays!

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Mammyloveswine · 22/02/2020 17:25

@Bananasandchocolatecustard Blushsorry got your name wrong there!

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Bananasandchocolatecustard · 22/02/2020 19:24

No worries 👍

Ylvamoon · 22/02/2020 19:30

I generally think he needs to chip in on the childcare. Do you get a break at the weekend?
I convinced my DH to take time off during school holidays by suggesting it is family time.

FusionChefGeoff · 22/02/2020 19:50

My kids LOVE holiday club and bug us to go even though I am often off as I work for myself!!

It doesn't have to just be seen as childcare but an option for them to try something new and have fun - plus you get a break.

Perhaps look into options over Easter??

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