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Ever been on holiday with friends or family and it gone very badly?

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crosser62 · 22/02/2020 03:15

Away at the moment with family.
Ooh it’s a challenge despite them being a very lovely person.
It’s me, dh and our kids plus bil.

He is a single fella, no kids, mid 40’s and lives at home with fil. Works ft.
Used to doing his own thing, not having to worry about anyone else in the whole world but himself.
He is a perfectly lovely bloke, we get on well.
Things like he almost chain smokes outside but it leaves the patio doors open so we get the fumes. None of us smoke.
He drinks cup after cup after cup of coffee. Isn’t quiet with his brewing technique so at 2am, 4am, 6am when he gets up to smoke there’s much banging of cupboards & drawers, slamming of fridge door, noisy stirring of coffee then patio doors opening for several cigs.
He is a faffer. Continuously tidying, folding tea towels and dishcloths, emptying bins, filling and then rearranging dishwasher contents.
He also hums, makes strange sounds, can’t stand silence so fills it with humming & daft noises.

He is driving me bat shit.

Tell me your stories as this is mild and tolerable but glad the holiday is coming to an end. I’m not the only miserable old bag when it comes to this kinda thing am I?

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polkadotpj · 22/02/2020 21:21

Never again after a few trips. Pre kids all was great but after kids? 2 nights is my limit or it's all tight lipped "I'm thinking bedtime now for the children are you?" While one set of kids are still running riot. Or the same as mentioned before, the poor beleaguered husband's "needing" to go to pub while we wives are left to cook and wrestle kids to bed (we both work - so should be holiday for both of us ).

polkadotpj · 22/02/2020 21:22

Husbands not husband's

Vinorosso74 · 22/02/2020 22:03

SIL has suggested we go away with them to Center Parcs or such for a few days. Firstly Center Parcs doesn't appeal to me and secondly I couldn't cope with her constant fussing over what her kids are eating. This thread has confirmed why we shouldn't do it.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 22/02/2020 22:17

We shared accommodation but luckily all had separate cars. Our sat nav got us lost ever day (apparently Grin) so we could have a good debrief in the car when the kids were asleep. Getting it all out of our system really helped but luckily, despite positive talk from the inlaws, it hasn't come up again and we would unfortunately be busy.

oldstripeyNEWname1 · 22/02/2020 22:37

I think you may have discovered the reasons why bil is single, living with his father, and holidaying with his brother 🤔.

I think there's a peculiar kind of hope of experience with holidays. Even if you've been scarred by bad student house shares, the offer of 'additional childcare' or sun makes you forget what you know.

It has taken a few disasters for me to now realise that I barely tolerate my own children and husband when we're all off. I don't holiday in the same postcode with anyone else I know. And guests get chucked out after 24 hours!

SparkleClub · 22/02/2020 22:46

Went on a uk holiday with 2 friends and our DC's. We agreed I would be the one to book the break away and pay the deposit. I ended up paying for the whole weeks accommodation.
I also had stupidly agreed to be the one that meal planned and got a few weeks worth of food in for the 8 off us which once I had paid for it all they was supposed to bank transfer me their share. Every time it was mentioned they changed the subject or made excuses. I ended up babysitting their kids whilst they spent hours on the phones to husbands/showered. I cooked all meals. Done all of the cleaning and washing up. As one was pregnant I let her have my bed and I slept a full week on a sheet in the living room floor. They didn't want to do anything i suggested like day trips, go to the beach etc.. all whilst posting on social media that we was having a blast. I wasnt!! On the last day I had enough, as soon as we was back in our part of the UK. I ditched them took my DC and cases and legged it on the next train out of there without saying goodbye. That was 2 year ago and haven't heard from either one since!!

managedmis · 22/02/2020 23:10

We know why he's single OP!

QueenArseClangers · 23/02/2020 00:13

Have you not told BIL to be quiet with his noise and smoking?

crosser62 · 23/02/2020 01:23

No. Kids aren’t disturbed just us and we can cope.
He’s single for a reason yes Grin

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Casino218 · 23/02/2020 02:01

Ha ha @SparkleClub what a nightmare. I bet they wondered what happened!

TinklyLittleLaugh · 23/02/2020 03:21

I went camping with my best mate and my sister and our respective partners and kids.

Sis is very indulgent/borderline neglectful with her kids, lets them eat crap (they are overweight), stay up late, generally kind and spoils them.

Bestie is very strict, almost military with hers. Has high standards; motto is something like “I’m your parent not your friend”.

We are something in the middle.

They both bitched to me about the other one constantly for two weeks; criticised the others’ parenting, tried to get me to take sides. Even my kids were caught in the middle between their cousins and their friends. It was exhausting.

I’ve been on holiday with both since but never again together.

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