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Moving to private school in y3

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Kestonmum · 20/02/2020 13:34

Has anyone had any recent experience of this? Did your DC settle in ok? For various reasons (academic/behavioural issues) in her current school we are looking to switch DD to a private all through girls school. She seemed to really enjoy the taster day & seems quite excited by the prospect. We think the school would be a good fit for her. I would need to up my hours from PT to FT but I am toying with this anyway as getting sick of lack of progression PT offers.
I suppose I'm just looking for reassurance/ positive stories from others who have done the same.

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Iliketonamechangealot9876542 · 20/02/2020 13:37

I was moved in year 2 to a indi girls school and I loved it. I was miserable at my primary school and thrived at the new one.
I’ve got so many fond memories of it and am so glad that they moved me! If I could afford private school I’d send my children, but sadly we can’t at the moment

Br1ll1ant · 20/02/2020 13:38

Best thing we ever did for our DS. He settled easily and made some great friends and is achieving so much more in academics and sport. I think at 7 their friendships are pretty fluid and it’s a good time to move.

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Kestonmum · 20/02/2020 14:53

Thank you both. DD is happy at her current school with some lovely friends so part of me is reluctant to move her but the new school are just able to offer so much more

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Onceuponatimethen · 20/02/2020 15:39

Will be different from school to school. In a lot of schools there will be other new joiners at this stage - they should tell you if any other children are due to join

Onceuponatimethen · 20/02/2020 15:40

Is it your dd who has behavioural issues, or other children op?

Couchpotato3 · 20/02/2020 15:42

We moved twice while our elder DCs were at primary school, so had no choice but to change their schools. Both times they settled quickly and made new friends. I wouldn't worry about it - its very common for children to move around at this age, also to swap from state to independent. Good luck to your daughter!

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Kestonmum · 20/02/2020 17:01

onceupon no its not my DD,but behaviour and behavioural management at her school has gone into into a downwards spiral recently . DD and several of her peers have been punched/ kicked / spat at in the playground lately, all the right noises are being made but essentially nothing is being done bar the boys in question missing a few lunchtimes , then it happens again . This is in an infant playground.

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Honeywort · 20/02/2020 17:17

Moved both of ours at Y3 - at Most private schools round here you can join at nursery, or there is a 7+ entrance exam or a 11+ exam so you get most new starters at these ages . I think Y3 is a great time to move as friendships very definitely still fluid at this age. Is there space at the school you am thinking about? I guess there must be if you have had a taster day, Round here most entrance exams are in Jan (for year 3 entry the following September) but children do join mid year if/when there is a vacancy and they always seem to settle in fine.

Sammysquiz · 20/02/2020 17:20

My DD is in Year 3 at a private school - there were about 10 new joiners in September, so seems like a common time to join. All have settled brilliantly.

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Kestonmum · 20/02/2020 18:09

These are all very reassuring , thank you !

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Reginabambina · 20/02/2020 18:14

I was moved into a girls school in year three. It was great.

wowsaidtheowl · 20/02/2020 18:38

My daughter moved for year 3. She loves it and it was the right move for her. We still miss our friends at her old school!

Rootd · 20/02/2020 18:44

State till 8 is a common route into private schools. She won't be the only joiner.

Onceuponatimethen · 20/02/2020 19:04

I just wanted to check because sn help/behavioural support for dc with challenges can be very poor at private school

I’ve been very happy with our move. Good luck op

okiedokieme · 20/02/2020 19:07

All kids nice school here at year 3 because there's infants and juniors - and they aren't all linked. Kids adapt fast

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Kestonmum · 21/02/2020 07:47

Yes onceupon I definitely think you have to pick the right school for your child & that's not always necessarily private.

Thank you for all the responses good to hear moves at this age are generally positive

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Featurewall · 25/02/2020 20:54

We did this last year, moved DD from her state primary to an all through girls selective. I was so anxious about whether or not it was the right decision but she has flown and we are so pleased.

Pipandmum · 25/02/2020 21:12

I moved my daughter in middle of y2. She loved her taster day and was really excited, but once she joined she was not treated as anything special and I think she was taken aback. She did not get on with her teacher at all. She had trouble managing her expectations and the different ways of doing things at the new school.
But now 8 years later she is very loyal to her school and has thrived there. I am moving her for sixth form and I an trying to prepare her better for another big change.
In hindsight I think I didn't do enough to explain how the new school might be very different than her old school. I should have tried to enter her at the start of the year maybe. I might have reached out to other parents at the new school before we started. We moved some distance and I did not go through the English system so I wasn't really aware of how it worked.
I'm sure your child will settle in but it may take some time. It might be hard to keep the friendships up with the kids in her old school too. She might sail through the change but also be prepared that it might be a tricky adjustment.

Nyorks · 15/11/2021 15:27

@Kestonmum Hi OP. I wondered what decision you made and how everything is going.
We are in a very similar position. DS in Y2 local small state primary. Subject of physical bullying with little done bar a few missed playtimes. He's quite academic also and isn't challenged where he is. We had planned for private for senior but now feel it might be best to move him now/start of Y3. It just feels like such a big thing

Landlubber2019 · 15/11/2021 15:34

I haven't had this experience, but my friend moved both her children into a private setting at the beginning of Y3 successfully.

However, noting you need to change your working hours I would consider if the change will put unnecessary financial pressure to keep up with the fees and extra associated costs. Do you have a 2nd child to consider and will you be able to cover the costs of high school?

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