This Queen stuff on Facebook

[SouthWestmom]

It's so ironic that in tagging 70 odd 'friends' who are queens and celebrated and strong etc etc in the spirit of 'being kind' and 'straightening each other's crowns' people are doing exactly that thing of picking someone last for PE; missing them off the guest list; turning down their offer of coffee (again) and reinforcing that some of us aren't 'queens' or 'beloved' or, let's call it, popular.

So, let's not pretend this is anything about being kind and making people feel important. It's another fleeting trend that kicks sand at those of us who aren't invited to play the game.

Anyone who tags me in this kind of shite will be immediately de-friended. It’s like a modern chain letter!

It makes you feel like shit . I had a horrendous nervous breakdown last year, very, very alone - suicidal, self harming, brought to A&E by police once, all sorts .

Family and friends did not contact once . Absolutely nothing . I’m coping better now but realising what friends and life I had are long gone.

Then they share posts on Facebook ... about mental health and being kind and being queens with each other ... I feel a thousand times worse as I’ve not been tagged once or even spoken to for months and months . I’m venting a bit as been very upset over a few things tonight - when I was a teenager at school, I used to hide at lunch or I’d be bullied horrendously so whilst others stood and watched ... This smacks of the same kind of thing, it’s hypocrisy at its finest .

I totally get what a couple if you have just said - mental health posts shared with no expectation that they will actually act on them or ask after you or listen to the boring stuff.

It's just the bald hypocrisy that's interested me this time

God, I'm glad none of my FB friends have done this. They wouldn't though. If they did they'd be defriended ASAP.

I saw this and realised I was the only person not tagged on a few posts. I am assuming it's because tagging me has to be requested, but I know it's either, they don't like me or that they know I'll not join in.

I'm also very sensitive about my looks so it hurts momentarily to know I'm not 'chosen to be beautiful for once.

Then I realise they're simply virtue signalling. Leaving one person out isn't being kind at all. At the same time, I want no one's pity. One of the women makes PA digs at me a bit anyway, so I'm not surprised.

Well none of mine have tagged me! They've either been tagged or responded and tagged others.

And it says 'if I haven't tagged you, please, no offence , I've tagged people I thought would make it fun'

So basically, 'I know some boring old people I don't really care about might be upset but I don't want to hear it, fun sponge'

I hate chain letters! I’m very relieved not to be tagged. I feel like responding, ‘ God no, I’m not offended, far from it! Thanks for not involving me in this shite!’

Yep so much hypocrisy over the past few days. Too much #bekind from people who are actually pretty unkind in real life.

It's such a load of shite. I've been tagged in a few of these but if they genuinely thought I would "make it fun", they are sadly mistaken as I will just ignore.

I'd love to come off Facebook and be free of all that but it is very handy for finding out about local events/floods/trees down/ etc.

It's spread over to Instagram too. I've unfollowed the few I saw post this. I don't know them (big accounts) so wouldn't expect to be tagged so it's not personal hurt, it's just it seems tasteless to use a tragic death, (as in CF. I'm assuming that's what sparked it), as an excuse to post a heavily filtered selfie of yourself whilst making some of your friends feel left out. Purely to boost your visibility and engagement in order to gain followers, as that's how Instagram works. Completely missed the point. I don't have Facebook partly to avoid bollocks like this.

Anyone feel hurt by it, don't. They'll be tagging people they want to suck up to or who have loads of followers. It's exactly like the popular girl group at school. You don't need that kind of fake-ness in your lives.

I haven't seen this on FB. Perhaps because I've carefully weeded out the sort of brainless people who do it! The slightest whiff of this sort of shite and I unfriend, regardless of who it is and what "drama" it might cause.