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Everything just going wrong...

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NotNowPlzz · 19/02/2020 19:26

Hi

This is extremely outing but rn I don't care.

Last night my DP got arrested on false charges brought against him by a nutcase who has tried to destroy our friends' lives and now appears to have started on us.

I already have depression.

I've had his phone since he's been gone, someone has texted him addressing him as 'baby', so he's probably cheating on me.

One of my best friends last year really upset me so we didn't speak again.

Another best friend stole from me at the end of last year.

Now I barely have any friends at all, and I'm so scared of making new friends in case they do something similar. I couldn't take another betrayal. My mental health is already bad enough as it is.

This morning I get a message from my main client (I am self-employed) to say they won't need me as much, and I'm already financially struggling.

My STBXH (abusive) is trying to make the divorce process difficult.

Thankfully my DD is happy and healthy.

But I've lost all confidence in everything, including myself. I don't see how I can resurrect my business now, I have no energy or ability to, just break down in tears. I can't be signed off as it's my own business. I'm the main earner but it looks like I'll be splitting with DP anyway.

I can't see any kind of future that would be happy, and just feel like the most massive fuck up in existence. I had a really tough time mental health wise up to the age of about 21 and then managed to come out of it. I always had negative messages from home about myself during childhood, and I tried to get rid of them the best I could. I thought I was living a successful life and could finally be proud of myself for pulling it together. But I should never have tried in the first place. I'm a fuck up, my mother was right, I never finish what I start. I'm just a fucking problem.

Sorry for the rant. I just feel so so so bad.

OP posts:
Oliversmumsarmy · 19/02/2020 19:38

Sometimes Shit happens and it keeps happening.

Sometimes it is the universe’s way of getting you to stop and change direction.

And sometimes it is down to people stabbing you in the back.

Are you sure your Dp is cheating.
If someone is out to get you could it be a made up message to split you up.

How much is down to this other person.

If you didn’t have this person messing with you would you be feeling the way you do
or would you be able to cope with done if the other stuff better

NotNowPlzz · 19/02/2020 19:45

I'm pretty sure it's not a made up message. I called the number on withheld and it was a woman.

I just don't know where to turn anymore.

If it's the universe is telling me to change direction, this is the messages it's giving me...

Don't be kind to anyone because they'll take advantage of you
Don't rely on anyone
Don't trust anyone

OP posts:
ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 19/02/2020 19:53

my dd is happy and healthy

Keep repeating that to yourself OP as some people aren’t so lucky.
I’m not surprised you have feelings of being worthless if your mother told you you were a fuck-up. It’s not the basis for bringing up a confident, positive child.

That text does sound dodgy, so that needs investigating. It’s bound to be upsetting to see something like that.

The “friends” who stole from you/upset you - well they’re out of your life now so that’s a good thing.

Your ex is making things difficult, but the divorce is going through and you will be free of him eventually!

You’ve built your own business once and you can do it again. You’ve lost your best client - you will work to get more clients - you can do it!

Don’t allow yourself to spiral. I know it’s easier said than done but what’s the alternative? Wallowing in a quagmire of pity isn’t going to help you or your dd. I really hope you find the inner strength you need Flowers

NotNowPlzz · 19/02/2020 20:40

Thanks BetteDavis Flowers

Just found on messenger him chatting to a woman, clearly trying to chat her up

Woman: are you married
P: no, why?
Woman: I see your profile pics. You look in love
P: lol

Just goes to show how much he thinks of me. SadAngry

OP posts:
Whataroyalannoyance · 19/02/2020 20:53

Shit

Oliversmumsarmy · 19/02/2020 21:06

I was going to say maybe the woman is a friend of the one that’s out to get you.

Your update does sound depressing.

Blackbelt · 19/02/2020 21:10

Can I ask you how you got out of your depression aged 21?

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