Is it me?

[SamxH]

I am in a pretty new relationship and my partner is quite the joker, self confessed, I have found that everyday he jokes about either an encounter with my mother, one of my friends or someone we know and I have found that after a while this really begins to make you question your self worth. I bought this to his attention yet it seems to be me that I can’t take a joke, I know he’s joking (do I), and that I’m being pathetic.

I have been feeling stressed over other things just lately and was wondering others opinions as to whether this is just me and I am being stupid?

I love a joke and a laugh but generally I find these self confessed jokers are rarely that funny, pretty painful, their jokes are at others expenses, and they tend to get pretty ragey when people call them out on their jokes not being funny because it's "just bantz innit". Jokes at everyone else's expense by the self confessed funny man get old very quickly, there is no way I could date someone like that, I would find it too annoying

Sounds like you're just not compatible. Some people like that kind of piss-taking banter, others don't. Don't expect him to change, just find someone else that is on your level.

On God.
Is it 'That's not what your Mum said last night' kind of thing?

Ye the whole I’ll bang ya mom, or your moms titties, or if not my mom one of my friends or people we know to the point it actually makes me worried if ever we were out something would happen or that he really wants to :( I admit I am a little insecure from previous crappy relationships but I am trying to work on that, I just feel like this makes me feel worthless and I’m not good enough is that just my own fault for letting it get to me I’m not sure

He sounds like a complete cock. Get rid

Red flag 🚩 alert!

Why are you with such a perverted? Your mum's breasts should not be a topic of conversation!

Please believe me it will fester inside you.
It's a pet peeve of mine, sexualising someone just to jar you.
He won't stop, just find more and more ammo to unsettle you...
LTB for your MH.

That’s not funny, that’s awful. Why would anyone let alone a partner make jokes like that?!

No it's not you.
He sounds as thick as shit.

He is also very hurt if I post a selfie on my social media to the point where I remove it to save the arguments and have even deactivated many of my accounts — yet he sets one up and posts things daily adding numerous females whom he doesn’t even know (he didn’t like the likes I received from males whom I have had on my account for over 11yrs) - I feel awful now like I’m portraying him to be all bad and that is not the case at all but these things I just needed an opinion on as I am questioning whether the issue is with me and not him and whether I am just over sensitive and a little pathetic at times 😔

Please get rid. It's not you, it is him and trust your instincts

He continues to make "jokes" that upset you, even though you've asked him to stop. Talking about your mother and friends like that is disgusting and totally unacceptable.

Also, he is not hurt by you posting pictures on sm. He sounds jealous and is trying to control you. Please get rid before he destroys your self esteem and has you where he wants you.

He is just preparing you for a lifetime on egg shells, doubting yourself with the boundaries buried in his banter.
You can do it now or come back in 15 years with fuck all self confidence and a couple of miserable kids.
He has to go.

It’s not you.

Dump him, he's a twat

He's awful. Get rid before your self esteem is even more damaged

It absolutely isn’t you. He’s a massive twat.

He doesn't sound like a kind, caring or respectful person.

Point out that you responded to his "pathetic" concerns about your Facebook friends and ask him to show you the same understanding.

Jokes about shagging your mother?

He's a keeper!

He’s trying to control your social media, he will try and control other areas of your life while chipping away at your self esteem.

He sounds like an absolute dick OP

Omg, get rid of him! He’s vile.