Ungoogleable cliche I seem to have invented myself

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Is this even a phrase?

‘Everybody has their own row to how’

If yes - do you know the meaning? I was googling for it, and found only ‘She has a tough row to hoe’. Which I understand, but it’s not the cliche I’m looking for.

Sorry -

‘Everybody has their own row to HOE’

Like everybody has their own cross to bear? I’ve never heard of it!

I’ve heard this one before, as in just a ‘row to hoe’ but not quite how you’ve used it.

‘Plough your own furrow’ is a more common version. Like yours though!

I've never hear of it either, but would interpret it in a similar way to Bette Davis, the phrase that came to mind for me is "everyone has their own boat to sail".

I've never heard it before, but presumably it must be 'hoe' not 'how', to make sense.

Then it could be:
-everyone has their own tasks to complete
-everyone has to work and pay their dues
-everyone must find their own path in life

It’s “hoe your own row”, as in MYOB.

Sorry, slow typist and just saw your update!

How about interesting - Shesgotbettedaviseyes has it closest. In my head it IS like ‘We all have our crosses to bear’. But I come from a very atheistic background!

I’ve googled that phrase, and I see immediately people mentioning the kind of ambiguity about it that I’m struggling with when I think about my own cliche of choice.

It's a line in John Lennon's "Beautiful Boy", I think.

Googled it. Definition in first result:

idioms.thefreedictionary.com/hoe+own+row

No that’s not the cliche I’m looking for, Socalm! I’m clutching for idea behind ‘crosses to bear’, but I think the meaning I’m thinking of is a bit more pejorative. Like - pipe down, you’re not so special, we’ve all got rows.

I've heard it said when people are in unenviable/tragic situations. 'That's a hard row to hoe'. You definitely didn't make it up!

No. I’ve not heard it like that.

Just like ‘that’s a hard road to hoe’

A difficult path to take

I've heard it but only in the Kacey Musgraves song 'Biscuits'. I assumed it was an American saying from Southern farming or something