I am 35. All my life my mother has controlled me and I've let it happen. But now it's time to stop.
My mother is a lovely women, she doesn't do this intentionally and because I've always let it happen, I suppose she doesn't know she's doing anything wrong. We have a close relationship but are not the type to talk to each other about feelings and I know if I was to have a chat with her it would break her and hurt her feelings. My mum also just assumes things of me, eg at the weekend I'm meeting some old friends and my mum just asked what time would I be picking her up to join us. 🤦🏼♀️ I told her I'd ring her tomorrow. This way it gives me time to think of something /excuse to say - it also means I'm spending my evening and the next few days worrying about it. I don't understand why she would even want to come with us... Well I do, it's because she is bord! When I do build up the courage (not very often) to say no, then I feel ridiculously guilty.
Has anyone else experienced a relationship like this? Has anyone got any tips? Please be kind 😔