New relationship and funeral

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My friends boyfriend killed himself at the start of January and the funeral is tomorrow.

Around the same time, I started dating a good friend. We’ve known each other 4 yrs but only been together 6 weeks.

Would it be too soon to ask him to come to the funeral with me? I have no issue going alone and had planned to, until the last few days when I’ve felt much sadder about the death and would like some company there I think.

BIL always brings a date to funerals. It's so crass. We judge him.

Worse to bring your new boyfriend when your friend's boyfriend has just passed.

I think it would probably be fine, but there is a small chance that it would upset your friend. On balance, because of that small chance, I would go alone.

If you were okay to go alone, go alone. Taking a new boyfriend is not usual.

If there is no wake then definitely don’t take him. Just go to the service, sit alone if needs be, then go home. It’s true she may well not even notice who you are with. But in case she does and it upsets her, don’t take the chance.

No. You say you have no issue going alone, so do that. It's not a social occasion.