Ds just turned 7. Was referred age 2 for autism assessment due to hand flapping. After a year of all sorts of tests he was discharged, we were told yes he does have autistic traits but so far he's not held back by it. Fine. Then he started school and reception teacher noticed other things that I didn't notice, mostly that he takes language very literally, this causes problems most days. However the senco at the time stated that as he gives eye contact he couldn't be autistic. Fast forward a little, he's now in year 2. We have had him coming home in tears several times since September as he does not understand certain things the teacher will say. It's usually when they use metaphors but jokes and sarcasm as well just upset him, it's like he can't process it. There is a new senco now and they recommended that he was re referred, his first appointment came through very quickly and its in just over a week. Ds is very clever but tells me he struggles at school because of the language thing, he's started to get upset about going. He is difficult to get to sleep at night and will sit and cry his heart out because he says he can't get to sleep on his own. He shares a room with his brother so he's not alone but he breaks his heart at being in his own bed so usually ends up in with us, he's out within seconds then. He doesn't eat much, will only eat dry foods nothing moist, won't eat meat. Doesn't understand when it's a siblings birthday it just breaks his heart, makes him sound like a spoilt brat that I know but it's not like that, he just can't cope with some of his emotions and doesn't understand certain things. If we tell a story about when he was a baby or little if it's something funny he can't laugh at it he breaks down because he thinks we are laughing at him. We literally have to watch what we say all the time. He's a happy boy aside from this, if things in his little bubble go as he expects. The reason I'm posting is I think we need support or some sort of help to help him? I don't want to have to explain every year to his new teacher about his little quirks and funny ways. His teacher this year said she hadn't noticed anything about him, this is possibly because he just fades into the background in class, he doesn't make a fuss hes just quiet and saves all his frustration for when he comes out of school. He still flaps and also has some little tics as well. What do I do? Do I push for some help /diagnosis or just let them decide? I'm scared that my lovely clever boy is going to be left behind at some point, possibly when he goes into juniors but most likely when he goes to secondary, I really think the massive change then will be too much for him. I just don't know if I'm over reacting.