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Pregnant and my husband is depressed and says he’s unhappy in our marriage

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Louisaizzy · 16/02/2020 19:14

Six months ago my husband informed me out of the blue that he was unhappy in our marriage and we had deep seated issues. This completely blindsided me as I was completely happy. I’m a busy Working mum of two and haven’t got time for this kind of scenario and though he was talking a load of rubbish out of nowhere. Since this revelation I became pregnant And things With my husband have gradually gone from bad to worse. Husband has been signed off from work for three months with depression and anxiety and to cut a long story short last weekend I found a receipt from a stripclub, he had spent £500 on strippers and drinking with his mates.
I went mental so threw him out. This was the last straw after everything.....He apologised to me, said he got a refund so naively I let him back after four days. The kids were upset and felt pressured. He came home last night and when the kids went to bed, he started going on about being unhappy with the marriage and I don’t do anything around the house (which is a complete joke) he says he wants to go to counselling then said to see if he still wants to be with me then he swiftly said he didn’t say that . it’s breaking my heart and I’m so stressed. My pregnancy was going great, I was feeling amazing but I’m now worried with all this stress I’m going to miscarriage and I can’t stop crying!..

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AnotherEmma · 16/02/2020 19:16

LTB

How far along are you?

Stompythedinosaur · 16/02/2020 20:28

He can make a decision about what he wants away from you, it isn't helping anyone him being in the house. It will give you time to decide what you want too.

NotStayingIn · 16/02/2020 20:38

I’m not really sure why you are having another child with a guy after he said he no longer wants to be in a relationship with you. It does sound like you ignored what he told you, and now further down the line are surprised he means it.

He wants out. That is horrible but I’m not sure what anyone can say to fix it. You sound like you can handle going it alone. You shouldn’t have to be in this situation but I don’t see how you can make him change. If he is going to mess you around like this he might as well leave again.

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