Can my relationship survive if we don't live together?

[Petals23]

So I'm with my boyfriend nearly four years. When we were together 2 years he decided to move further away. I actually lived in this village myself a few years ago before I bought my home in the city, and while it's a nice place, the commute was awful- 2 hours each way. I said I'd never do it again. Because of this we see each other less also - he used to live close by.

He likes living there and whenever he is doing things with the house, like new automated gates, he says things like "these will see me out", meaning they'll last him a long time.

So he plans on staying there, I love where I live, he decided to move, something I'd no input into.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and how did it work out? Thanks.

Relationships where both people decide not to live together for some reason can of course work, when both parties remain delighted by one another and committed to one another.

In your case, he just upped and went after two years together, with no discussion? He’s just not that into you.

I think that's how it's likely to be for us. I know if we were ever to discuss living together there's no way he'd live in my place. I don't think I'm being stubborn in not wanting to live where he has moved to? Often times as well he 'jokes' I should come visit him more. For work reasons it's not practical during the week for me.