Hi,
My son is a bit impulsive, I’ve already asked him to not contribute on the school group chat as he can’t stop himself jumping in and the other kids, whilst not mean, do take the mickey a bit.
Anyway, he has been having texts back and forth with this girl, for the most part it’s a mutual friendship but he seems to want to establish that she is his girlfriend. He doesn’t like the fact today that she’s gone on a day trip with her mum, another boy from their class and his mum.
I have tried to explain to him, that they are 11, that she is entitled to have as many male friends as she pleases. But he is getting terribly upset and overwrought about it. He’s also a bit much - you know, always messaging etc. (When he has his phone at least, I do have strict curfews). He made her a valentine’s card and bought chocolates and he messages her to ask if she liked the card & the chocolates she says yes and then he says “should I have bought flowers?.” He suffers with low self-esteem - I don’t know why as I’ve always been very vocal that he is loved unconditionally. He suffers with anxiety. If I say stuff to him to try and encourage a more chilled attitude towards friendships he can go from 0-100 in five seconds, yelling and crying and banging things down. He does also have focus issues and he does tend to dominate conversations at the dinner table too and have to be fiddling with something constantly. I am having a chat with his doctor Monday as I thought he’d grow out of these but apparently not. I am not sure what to do? In fact I’m quite sad as at 11 I don’t think this should be dominating his life and I’m worried for when it really is a romantic relationship. He can not go through life being possessive and jealous! Help!