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Anxiety after interactions

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User4637389 · 14/02/2020 16:08

To a certain extent I’ve had anxiety about my interactions with people since I was a young child. Of course then I didn’t know what it was I just remember a negative feeling. I remember my younger days, late teens and early 20s I would avoid saying hello to people because I thought they wouldn’t want to say hello back to me. I told a boyfriend this at the time who thought I was mental for that.

As an adult this feeling has come and gone, at its worst (now) I feel incredibly low after spending time with others, even short conversations with friends and people I know well leaves me feeling low about how i came across to the other person, I analyse every word I say, how I replied to what they were saying, my personality, my mood etc. Just completely self aware and my focus isn’t on the general interaction and the other person.I’m noticing I’m feeling this way with close family members now, people who I know would never judge me.

As a result I think I am avoiding people now and feel exhausted after all interactions. Thank you to anyone that reads this. Does anyone have experience of this or going through anything similar? Is there anyone who has good ideas of ways to cope or manage it? Im unsure if it’s therapy i need by now?

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SallyWD · 14/02/2020 16:15

I really feel for you. I do this this to a lesser extent - I often think about conversations I've had and feel awkward and embarrassed afterwards - but not usually to the extent that I feel miserable. I wonder if you'd benefit from some CBT to combat your negative thoughts. I'm sure you interact with people fairly normally. Many people I talk to can come across as a little socially awkward but to be honest it just makes me warm to them. If it's making you feel really low you'd benefit from some help.

User4637389 · 14/02/2020 17:04

Thank you for your advise Sally, it’s good to know other people can have similar thoughts. Yes I think to others I come across as interacting normally, I have made good friendships and receive positive feedback from my interactions with people within my job role. I’ve got stuck in this train of negative thinking! I’ve researched CBT before, it’s putting it into action I think and maybe worth a go at least. Thank you again.

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