The night before Valentine's day fight- awkward card exchange 😳

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Hi,

Anyone else done this?....

So the night before Valentine's day (last night) you have a massive row with your DP, have told each other you're arseholes or similar, there's tension in the air for the rest of the evening, don't talk to one another, just catch the odd 'you're being a twat' look, go to bed angry, not wanting to accidently touch each other......

And then you're supposed to wake up in the morning and give them a card which tells them how amazing they are, how there are no words to describe your love and admiration for them, how perfect they are in every single way....

I haven't actually written mine yet. I have it in front of me and am having to refrain from, let's say, amending some of the wording

Anyway, we're good really and this is supposed to be lighthearted, but yeah, it's awkward!

Anyone else found themselves in this situation?

No. I never go to sleep on an argument. It's not healthy.

Happened to me and DH 3 years in a row! We were never arguing regularly, they just seemed to always be around Valentines! We decided to ignore Valentines Day and don't do anything now, it worked for us

@BillHadersNewWife, never? I hear it isn't healthy, but sometimes you're just too knackered to talk it/sort it out, no?

Been married 30 years this year. I am totally fed up with DH . I can't have a conversation without it descending into an argument.

If only I could find a suitably worded Valentine's card - like OFF!

@BearSoFair, good idea We haven't really acknowledged it yet, although DP did bring me up a coffee and I have managed to write the card without any amendments 👍

Roses are red, Violets are blue. You're a big knob head, but yeah I still love you.

I don’t go to sleep on a fight either. I’d hate waking up to this.

Put off cards until later, if it all feels alright then? They’re going to be fairly meaningless straight after a fight, surely.

@FruityWidow haha that's beautiful! Brought a tear to my eye

I was genuinely thinking about putting something similar, but not sure we're there yet, with the making jokes about it. I played it safe.

I never go to sleep on a fight either... turns out DH does though! As I found out when we had our first proper argument when we hadn’t been together long. I lay in bed next to him fuming, finally calmed down enough to have a sensible conversation which I rolled over to initiate only to find the bugger sleeping like a baby!!

Yes DH and I aren’t currently speaking. He’s still in bed while I got up this morning to sort kids for school while being full of a chest infection. He went out last night with mates and came home very late so he has spoilt today’s plans to go out for breakfast. He’s left my card out but I’m tempted to just put it in the bin!

@SweetPeaPods, eeeee 😬 that's a bit shit. I hope you get an apology and perhaps a Valentine's lunch or dinner to try and make up for it. Not surprisingly you're angry. Hope you feel better soon

*surprised

Funnily enough DH and I are not big arguers, been together for 20 years so not much to argue about now. But we’ve had our once a year row two or three times now around our wedding anniversary. Last couple of years we kept mentioning it and managed to avoid it so I hope we’ve broken the curse of it now.

@Ozgirl75, let's hope so! DP and I actually had a bit of a row the night before our wedding Not huge, but I remember feeling really upset and worried that they'd be noticable tension, but there wasn't. As soon as we saw each other, it all went out the window and we just wanted to get married.