A pathetic Facebook one....

[definitelynottwelvenow]

Right, name changed because I KNOW I'm being quite ridiculous and need to just get off facebook but....

New colleague started about a month ago in work, we seem to get along really well, lots of chats, no atmosphere etc. However, I can't help but noticing that she's steadily adding all other work colleagues to her Facebook account but has ignored mine for over a week now.

I know, I know how petty this is but I already struggle with feeling that I'm not liked by people and don't get on well with people and this feels weirdly like it's confirmed that I'm just not as likeable as others. Is there a better explanation for this?

Other colleagues aren't people who work more closely than me btw.

Thanks for indulging me!!!

When you say ignored you have you sent her a request?

If you haven’t then are you sure these other colleagues haven’t friend requested her, not the other way round?

Maybe she hadnt seen your friend request? Or perhaps she thinks you might not like what she posts?

Yes I've sent her a request.

It might be that she's just adding whoever pops up in her "suggested friends".

Cross post!

Take your request back and forget about it. I know it can sting, but taking it back can close off that horrible feeling I think.

Take your request back and forget about it. I know it can sting, but taking it back can close off that horrible feeling I think.

Do you think? Can she tell I've taken the request back though? Won't that look even more needy/petty since I'm obviously bothered???

Trying hard to be reasonable adult here

So what if it does? You've requested and she's ignoring it, just take it off. You will feel more in control and not smarting about it. Some you win and all that.

Then just carry on as you are at work. It's just SM.

Or you can leave it and she may accept late one night so she can snoop and delete. You'll wish you had took it back then.

She'll only notice you've removed it if she goes into her pending friend requests. She can't complain if she's confirmed everyone but you, just do it. It's only Facebook, not worth worrying about

It's not a good idea anyway to add work colleagues on FB, not to mention she's new and barely in the door.

I don't add anyone- if they add me fine but otherswise I cba with the mindfuck over it all.

Don't withdraw the friend request cos you'll just come across as impatient and huffy. Leave it sitting and try not to think about it.

I know exactly how you feel. Colleague went on about how she doesn't really do FB but then it turned out she is friends with practically everyone in the building except me!

I know exactly how you feel. Colleague went on about how she doesn't really do FB but then it turned out she is friends with practically everyone in the building except me!

Ouch! It really shouldn't smart so much as an adult but it does doesn't it?

I’d withdraw it as well - take the power back!

It would definitely smart. Not as bad as when the woman I shared an office with said to me ‘I don’t make friends at work’... yet there were two people she’d regularly go for lunch with and one whose house she’d go to 🤔 It wasn’t like I even wanted to be her friend either but it was such a really weird thing to say and certainly put me in my place. It was like saying ‘bog off, don’t even try cos i’m so fab’ 😂😂

@SuperMeerkat how bizarre are some people??? It does end up making you feel like you dodged a bullet though

I, too, would cancel the request. She's being rude by ignoring it.

Take it back and then block her. Better off that way. You've dodged a bullet as a PP said.

Ah OP you could be me. Most people in my office are fb friends, but not me. It's a shame, but I'm actually pleased to have been able to draw the line between work & home.

Just carry on as you were.

Thanks! Don't know why it happens.... bought her lunch yesterday too. Oh well, am having a little fb holiday for a while now as I care far too much about this.
@NYnachos sorry to hear that, why are some people like this? Grrr!!

I was on FB years ago, slightly different, but I just ignored colleagues friend requests, I only had family and close friends on mine, I got along well with my colleagues but I didn’t make them friends, if you know what I mean.....so when they all gossiped, fell out/fell in with each other, I was spared all the pettiness and drama!