opinions about if this crosses boundary with male friend

[jassinkernow]

I might be overthinking this a bit, but here is my question:
A very close friend of mine and DHs lives in Australia. The three of us go back 25 years - we met at university. As he lives so far away, we don't see him very often. He is coming to the UK unexpectedly for a week to sort out some stuff with his ageing parents. They live about 3 hours drive from us. At this kind of notice, we are unlikely to get babysitters for our kids, so thinking DH and I will go over and see him separately - as it's quite a long way and we'd have to go in the evening, it'd probably make sense to stay over. Would you be uncomfortable with that idea if you were me/DH/friend/friend's wife (who is staying in Aus with their kids)?
In the interests of full disclosure, friend and I had a brief relationship when we were at university. It ended amicably when we went our separate ways after graduation. I don't know if that makes a difference or not.

Why don't you just invite him to yours?

Was also just going to post that I don't see why he just wouldn't come to you?

^ probably because the friend visiting from Australia has got a very limited amount of time to do what he needs to do whilst in the UK and can't afford the time to drive a 6 hour round trip, before any socialising takes place.

To answer your question, given the circumstances, I don't think this crosses any boundaries.

This is fine.

It's fine unless anyone involved is a bit... you know... awful.

Even then it's still fine, just that person isn't.

Why don't you take the kids with you?

Where would you stay over? I mean the same hotel room might be weird but the same building wouldn't bother me 😁

We have a close friend of ours nearly 20 years I have been to stay with him without partner if working or on training courses by his , partner goes on his own if they are going out too but he usually comes to us we don't see it as odd

Thanks for your thoughts. Acupofcoffee is right about why he wouldn't come to us - I think he'll have a fair bit to sort out at his parents.
Def not same hotel room! Possibly at parents' house or close by hotel.
We could take the kids, and might, but it'd be quite nice to catch up without them there (eldest is the type of teenager who finds adult chat endlessly interesting so wouldn't give us a lot of space, or go to bed early 😆!).
IMHO no one involved is awful!!!

As long as you’re in your own room that would be fine with me

I don't see a problem at all.