Will they cancel my membership?

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I have been a member of a gym for a few years.

This week I had a encounter with a women in the carpark. This is a very busy gym and the carpark is often full with people having to circle to get a space.

One morning I had done just that until I spotted a space. Unfortunately another car was just reversing into a space blocking my path so I had to wait for her to reverse into her space until I could turn the corner and go into the free space I had seen. She was taking ages as kept having to correct.

Meanwhile another car approached the other way and started reversing into the free space. Before they had reversed in I was able to turn the corner and moved towards the space. I had my indicator on to signal that I was going into that space. The other driver was still trying to manoeuvre badly into the space and I was now facing her. I kindly gestured to her pointing to the space that I had been waiting for that space, mouthing to her too. She 100% saw me as she threw her hands up in a oh well way but continued to reverse into the space. I wound down my window and politely said that I had been waiting for that space. She started to come out the space so I thought she was going to move and let me in but she was correcting to reverse straight. I told her politely three times that I had been waiting for that space.

As she ignored me I went past her and told her she was a very rude and horrible women. I had been politely waiting for someone else to reverse and was waiting for that space. She said there are other spaces to park in. I said there isn't that was why I was waiting for that space. I continued past and did put my middle finger up at her. It was an overreaction but I just couldn't believe how rude she was.

When she walked past my car she says she was going to complain about me and took a picture of my number plate. She then spoke to reception and I saw her write a complaint in the book at reception.

I have looked at the terms and conditions of the gym and it does say they can cancel membership for any threatening or aggressive behaviour. They have my registration number but not my name or anything. What do you think will happen? Do you think I will get a phone call to say they are cancelling my membership? This is a total one off for me and completely unlike me.

Jesus Christ. You both sound ridiculous. I doubt they’d cancel your membership, they tend to like money.

If you were waiting for a space around the corner and by the time you got there someone was already backing in then tough - you missed it. It's not reasonable for you to expect someone to give it up just because you say so - you admit you were held up by another driver around the corner so how was the second driver supposed to know your intentions? For all they knew you were leaving.
As for your membership, I doubt the gym will do anything. Your money is worth more to them than a rude gesture to another client.

I'm enjoying this, OP.

I think she did see me as I was indicating and cake round the corner just as she was manoeuvring to reverse in. I gestured I had been waiting three times before she started to reverse in.

I know it was petty but I just couldn't believe how rude she was. Fair enough she didn't know I was waiting but once I told her politely that I had been I think she should have moved rather than just throwing her hands up in a I don't care way. What has happened to common manners? I hate this me first attitude. If there had been other spaces I probably wouldn't have bothered.

Cake round the corner

I wish! It was like an open corner with no walls or anything so you can see round it.

Sorry OP you were the unreasonable one here. Yes you were there first but she got to the space before so it's tough luck. You did not behave well though.

Why is she rude? If she only saw you coming round the corner how is she expected to know you'd been waiting round it?

If I could see someone waiting for the space I would never cut them up to park in it first. However if I was reversing into a space and another driver suddenly appeared from round a corner I wouldn't drive back out just because they told me they were waiting, I'd assume they were trying it on.

I'm with you on this. It's so annoying! Someone once did took a space as someone pulled out that I was waiting for (they they happened to be turning past me so the other car could zip in first) after I'd been circling for 45 MINUTES and I could have throttled him.

It's so frustrating. I don't think they'll cancel your membership over it though, it takes more than calling someone rude and flipping the bird at them!

it will probably be ignored - most places mean violence when they use aggressive

Train spotting- because before she was reversing in we kind of got to the space at the same time and I had my indicator on. Plus it wasn't really a corner more a turn in the car park where you can completely see what is coming. i gestured to her that I had been waiting for the space. I told her three times or more. She began to reverse in after I had told her. To me that's very rude, she totally ignored me. I think that's basic manners, I would have apologised and moved out the space.

Well at least it doesn't look like my membership will be cancelled then. They don't even have my name. It was and will be a one off.

You say yourself you both got to the space at the same time, granted you had been waiting round the corner but from her pov you arrived at the same time, so no logical reason she would think she should drive back out and give you the space.

I highly doubt they'll cancel your membership; as someone else on the thread has mentioned, gyms are very keen on getting the monthly payments from members. You'd have to do something really bad for them to kick you out!

What has happened to common manners? I hate this me first attitude.

Says the person who was verbally abusive and stuck the finger up at someone because they got the parking space you wanted

You missed the space, tough luck I’m afraid. It is annoying, but she got in there first. You over reacted and was childish and aggressive. I doubt they will cancel your membership, although I would smirk if they had a word with you for being childish

How do you gesture that you've been waiting for the space? Anyway I don't think you'll be banned but you weren't in the right

I kindly gestured to her pointing to the space that I had been waiting for that space,

There isn't really a queueing system in the situation you describe. I would not have yielded to you in this situation.

I hate this me first attitude.

Surely the whole point of your post is that you did indeed expect to go first yourself.

A rude and horrible woman? She took your parking space, when it wasn't actually that clear it was yours by the sound of it. Get some perspective.

This is one of those things that happens in a day that normally annoy you for a couple of minutes and then you move on. They aren't going to cancel your membership, or even give a shit whatsoever.

There's only one rude horrible woman in this scene. That's you, OP.

Sorry OP, I’m with the others. If you had been waiting directly next to the space with your indicators on then I would agree with you but the fact that you were obviously a least a few cars away suggests that the space is fair game for the other woman.

If the car park at my gym was that busy and stressful I'd walk or cycle!

Even if you were waiting right beside the space and she took it anyway you can't get on like that, trying to start fights when people annoy you. Just wait for another space or park elsewhere and have a walk to the gym for a bit of exercise.

I went past her and told her she was a very rude and horrible women

😂😂 you verbally abused her and stuck your middle finger up at her.

All's fair in love and car parking.

The space goes to whoever gets there first.

This is so funny. It's a gym car park (so for people who want to do exercise) and it's obviously really busy but people would rather circle round and fall out with each other over the last space, than park say 5 minutes away and walk to the gym instead? I just couldn't be bothered and I'd find somewhere else to park.

If it's in the iddle of some industrial park with no other parking for miles around I think I'd be looking for a different gym. Too stressful by far.

If she complained, you can complain too I suppose. They won't "sack" you from membership though - I imagine they mean abusive behaviour directed at staff, not handbags at dawn (or twilight) between members.