Should I send a card?

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Shamelessly asking for a decision to be made for me

Someone I’m kind of seeing but not been out on a proper date with. Date planned for next weekend. We’ve been for a drive one evening and spent time together on a couple of other days.

I’ve bought a Valentine’s Day card for him, and now I’m not sure if I should send it? It’s only a jokey one not a ‘proper’ one but is it a bit too full on?

I need to post it today if I’m going to send it so thought I’d go with majority opinion.

I wouldn't but then that's me.

I don’t think I would. You could always have it in your bag at the weekend just in case he gets you one and you feel awkward?

Thank you both, I’ll probably just keep hold of it then.

Should have probably said in my first post, he’s not someone I’ve only just met. We’ve been friends for a couple of years but only recently admitted we had feelings for each other so just trying to slowly move from friendship to (possible) relationship. So I’m a bit unsure of where the boundaries are still.

I'm in a similar position and haven't got a clue what to do.

Been seeing a guy on and off for 5 months. Not officially a couple but neither of us are seeing other people.

We spoke about valentines at the weekend and his view seemed as if he thought it was a waste of time. I said it's always nice to receive a card or flowers so that you know someone thinks enough of you to do that - particularly in the early days.

I've seen some funny ones, that mirror our situation and I was thinking of sending one. Although after what he said at the weekend I think I'd look silly if I did so won't bother.

In your position though Id probably send it. If you've known each other for a couple of years you must have some idea of how he'll receive it. And if you e admitted feelings for each other then I don't think it would come across as too much too soon, providing it is a jokey one like you say and not a mushy one. Go for it!

No

If in doubt, don’t. Pop it in your bag and gauge the mood/see how you think he’d react/if he gives you one.

You’re doubting it for a reason.

Good luck with it though

Send it as it is meant to be anonymously. If he mentions it you can have a laugh about it without ever owning up that it was definitely you