Should I make my daughter see her?

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Hi. My youngest daughter, aged 10, recently moved school. She had been in the same (small) school since nursery, and wanted a change. She was unhappy, but nothing major such as bullying had happened. She just really wanted to spread her wings a bit, and make new friends. So the school move was completely driven by her. Pretty brave, I'd say! Anyway, she moved school and is much happier now, so it paid off.
She keeps in touch with one of the girls from her old class, and they're quite alike. Both of them quite quirky, outgoing and fun (but in a pleasant, well-behaved way!).
There's another girl from the old class who is missing my daughter, and would love to meet up. This girl is lovely, kind, quiet. Not with the strongest personality, but a good heart.
Thing is, my daughter is adamant that she doesn't want to see her again She says that she wants to move on, and that's that.
I have tried appealing to her better nature, reminding her that this girl was a good friend back in the day, and that if she's missing my daughter, it might be kind just to meet up with her again. Even if it is for one last time. I don't know, a total cut-off seems a bit brutal to me! Don't get me wrong, I have no intention of forcing this friendship upon my daughter, but surely a couple of hours wouldn't hurt?
Please be kind. I'm a single parent of 3, with no one else to really share my thoughts with at times.
Am I in the wrong here?
Many thanks

YABU I'm afraid. Your DD may have her own valid reasons for not wanting to see the child.

At 10, we're capable of making choices like that.

Thing is, my daughter is adamant that she doesn't want to see her again confused She says that she wants to move on, and that's that.

She's made herself pretty clear. Why would you go against that?

My mum used to make me do stuff like this and I resented her massively for it. It was always as if other people's feelings were more important than mine.

I would respect her wishes and also keep an open mind to their being more to watching to change schools than just spreading her wings.

I know the school, parents and children very well, and there was nothing else going on, other than a case of familiarity breeding contempt
Anyway, thanks for your thoughts everyone. I do appreciate the insight. I feel like a bit of a shit mum now, for not putting my own daughter's feelings first, but I also can't help but feel for the girl.
I'll just tell her mum we're busy for the foreseeable awkward.

Your DD isn't responsible for other people's happiness. It's important to teach empathy and kindness of course but not ok to make her hang out with a child she doesn't want to.

It's different when they're 5....at 10, she's almost ready for high school and will soon be making more of her own decisions anyway.

Text sent, although I have to admit that I felt awful at brushing them off. I can't lay that at my daughter's door though, as it's not her responsibility, and nor should she feel guilty.
Thanks again for the perspective.

OP, you sound lovely and as the other child was kind, it's natural to want to be kind back.

I agree with others and think you'll just have to leave it.

It does seem a bit strange that she is so adamant that she doesn't want to see her

Perhaps just tell the other Mum that she is really busy trying to settle into the new school and wants to focus on that.

I can imagine it might be a bit awkward as they are nice people.

You sound like a great Mum, doing her best.

@billy1966

Thanks so much - that's a really nice thing to say

I too was a bit taken aback by her flat out refusal, but I don't suppose these things can be forced.